13 Apr 2015

Unbelievable acts of FDW/Maid

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Winter:  This makes me wonder why MOM siding maid agencies and FDWs.  Why allow maid agencies to earn easy money and need not compensate employers eg employed below type of FDW?  Why till-date we don't get any protection from the claws of 'vulnerable and pathetic maids'?  

Being a FDW-employer is something I dread but do I have a choice?  To stay employable, have my own income instead of being looked down when requesting for VWO's limited subsidy .... which would you choose if you are in my shoes?

Extracted this from one of the comments in my blog.  Posted in "House rules" on 13 Apr 15
First and foremost, i sympathize with you having a special needs child.IT is already challenging raising a 'normal' child what more a child who needs extra attention.I have given up on maids. I hired too many including one who i was informed by a replacement from the same agency who went 'mad' in the indonesian agency and would drool and roll on the floor.The agent never informed me of her strange behaviour and it was my kids who told me that this particular maid would stare blankly at the wall while holding a knife.

I informed the agent immediately that the maid was a little 'off' as she kept gorging herself with food including the kids Pediasure milk, my organic chocolate, using all my toiletries and eating the food i prepared as she said it tasted better than her cooking.(keep in mind, i bought her her own toiletries, jam, bread, biscuits, noodles,kaya) but she insisted on using her fingers to scoop out EVERYTHING i cooked for my husband... from pates to desserts.

This was done within a span of ONE SHORT WEEK.

she would also ignore my kids and cry every day for the slightest reason like when i told her to help me clean my window grill(without opening them so its safe) , you know what she said? She said the detergent is going to make her nails brittle so she would only clean it for 10 minutes.... i was fine with it but i realised sadly, the minute you show understanding of ANY SORT..... YOULL BE EATEN ALIVE.

She got more demanding, stole more food, rummaged through my wardrobe, tried on all my shoes, and started flirting with my husband. All along, the agent whom i called for help was busy but i raised my voice and told them to take her back. The agent finally came when i told them about the knife incident and said,'She is new , let her adapt..."and kept convincing her that im a nice lady and that she wont be able to find another patient employer.I insisted they remove her from my house and they did so VERY RELUCTANTLY.

imagine if i was working full time.... i may not even know what the heck was going on at home!!!So be very vigilant when hiring a maid and dont be too understanding to their nonsense.You will suffer for it.

Big hugs to your little girl.Take care and be strong.

Winter: To many people, maids are vulnerable, need a lot of care, protection and unconditional love.  FDWs are not treated like adults and made responsible for their bad behaviour/actions.  

MOM hasn't been stingy in dishing out policies so that maids can enjoy life in Spore and get salary that is many times higher than home countries.  If the following are committed by your maid or your loved ones are suffering/killed due to FDW, do you brush aside and find excuse such as the maid was provoked, she was not treated well, abused, etc?  
摸摸你的良知.  做人别太自私,盲目跟从.  爱心泛滥 宽容可能是大错.

This maid below deserves your sympathy?
Did something wrong, while waiting to be repatriated, she hit her employer with a hammer.  

FDW felt stealing is no big deal?  She assumed nobody will be hurt by her hammer or act of revenge?  How do we educate FDWs, let them know what they are doing are wrong (stealing, lied to get a job, become prostitute/play girl, etc) and should be punished? Employer not at fault yet penalized or bear FDW's action, fair?  

For so many years, why maid agencies can collect easy money and no need to bear any responsibility/due diligence?  We are merely employers (not ATM machines or own a company), why there are so many MOM loopholes and responsibilities on our shoulders.... commoners?  

Why MOM shielded FDWs who are adults and not making them bear full consequences for their acts, including her death or injury? If FDW lied about her age or work capability, based on Spore employment terms, she is a liar and maid agency should be held fully responsible but for many years, MOM sided FDWs, source countries and maid agencies.  Being the most easiest target, the ones who paid for FDW's salaries, employers are suffering yet activists and MOM don't care.... just because the FDWs' work permits and insurance policies bear our names, we became our FDW's legal guardian.

It doesn't pay to be kind.  
Telling your FDW in advance that she'll be repatriated may just give you headaches.  For your own and family's protection, it is better to give immediate termination notice.  

Ask yourself, can you afford to take risks? Are you capable of picking up the consequences as a result of your irresponsible, insensible or unsound FDW?

Serangoon flat fire: Employer in shock after police arrest Myanmar maid for mischief by fire2 Feb 2015, STOMP

Police arrested a 28-year-old maid from Myanmar in relation to the fire at a flat in Serangoon. 

Her flat had been gutted by a fire and her maid taken to hospital for smoke inhalation.  Worried that her maid would have no clothes to wear after she was discharged, Mrs Gina Ong said she bought new clothes for her.  "But police told me not to see her," the 32-year-old interior designer added.

At about 3.30pm yesterday, several police officers went to her flat on the 10th storey of Block 506, Serangoon North Avenue 4, with the 28-year-old woman from Myanmar in tow.  They took the maid around the gutted unit and emerged after about 1½ hours.  To Mrs Ong's shock, the police had put handcuffs on her maid. "I can't believe it," said Ms Ong in tears as the maid was led away.

A police spokesman told The New Paper that the case has been classified as mischief by fire. Investigations are underway.  Mrs Ong said the maid had worked with the family for just 11 days before the fire.  She had employed her to help look after her children, aged four to 15.  Mrs Ong, who has previously employed maids from Indonesia, said she switched to employing someone from Myanmar because it was cheaper.

She said her agency had recommended the maid to her.  According to Mrs Ong's mother-in-law, Madam Wang, the maid began crying from the first night with them and continued to do so every night.  "She would cry at 7pm every night, but when we asked her what was wrong, she would say she was okay," said the 65-year-old housewife in Mandarin.  "I don't think she understood us, because when we tried to teach her things, she wouldn't get it.  "But she never told us she was unhappy or that she wanted to go back home." 

The fire has left the family scrambling to find alternative living arrangements.  Said Mrs Ong: "We're currently living with our siblings, but we don't know where we are going to live in future. We are a family now separated into three places."  She said the fire had destroyed "about 95 per cent" of their possessions.  "My children's uniforms were all destroyed in the fire and my husband doesn't even have underwear to wear now," she said.  "We are living one moment at a time."

Mrs Ong said she is worried that the insurance payout would not be sufficient.  "Our insurance only covers the structural things, like the walls and windows. But how about our possessions? Our clothes, medicine, appliances and furniture, everything was destroyed," she said.  Despite her family's situation, Mrs Ong remains thankful that no lives were lost. She said: "We are in despair, but at least we need not grieve.

Wheelchair-bound elderly women wait outside Bedok Mall store -- while maids shop30 Dec 2014, STOMP
Stomper Chua saw how two elderly women on wheelchairs were left unattended outside a store in Bedok Mall, while their domestic helpers were shopping.  She came across the sight yesterday afternoon (Dec 29).

Chua told Stomp:
"Two wheelchair-bound old ladies were seen waiting for their maids to shop for clothes at Cotton On in Bedok Mall yesterday afternoon.  "The maids took their own sweet time to shop for clothes and just left the elderly unattended for very long."

Maid hits employer with hammer, jumps to death, Mypaper, 21 Jan 2015
A Maid who jumped to her death at a condominium in the east on Monday had attacked her employer with a hammer just before that, reports said.

Police said they received a call at 8.02am on Monday, requesting assistance in Bedok Reservoir View.

They found a woman lying motionless at the location. She was pronounced dead by paramedics at the scene.  The woman is believed to be Palwinder Kaur, a maid who worked for one of the residents at the condominium, Aquarius By The Park.

She had been due to be sent back as her employer suspected her of stealing, Shin Min Daily News said.  Her employer was taken to hospital and recounted how she was attacked to a neighbour, IT consultant Abishek, 40.

He told Shin Min that the maid held her employer's nose and mouth, and hit the employer's head with a hammer.

The employer struggled and bit the maid's hand, then ran out of the house. She alerted the neighbours and security guards.

When they returned to the apartment, the maid ran to her room and jumped, a guard said.

The police are investigating the unnatural death.

Winter: Maid can quit if she is prideful, cannot be scolded even though mistakes were made.  She should not vent her anger on a minor or somebody who is vulnerable.  The existing MOM policies are not protecting vulernable employers and those placed under FDWs' care.  Just because we are wearing an 'Employer cap' we are treated like we are capable of bullying others and will not be at any disadvantage/losing end... is this fair to household like mine or below?

Maid jailed for hurting employer's 87-year old Alzheimer mum 22 Jan 2015 STOMP/Straits Times      

A domestic worker who vented her frustration on her employer's elderly mother by hurting the 87-year-old more than 20 times was jailed for 12 months on Wednesday.  Indonesian Sulastri Sakiran Sumadi, 37, had borne a grudge against her employer over a dispute they had sometime in February last year, according to The Straits Times.

Instead of sorting the matter out with her employer, Ms Marlene Poh Geok Hee, 51, she vented her dissatisfaction on Ms Poh's mother, Madam Tan Lye Hoe, by using her bare hands or an object to hurt her as a form of revenge.

She faced 24 charges and admitted to eight counts.
Deputy Public Prosecutor Nicholas Lai said Sulastri was employed in April 2013 to do household chores and take care of Madam Tan, who suffers from a host of medical conditions including Alzheimer's disease. She was also bedridden.

From May 17 to June 21 last year, Sulastri repeatedly caused hurt to various parts of the victim's body using various means at her employer's home in Dunman Road. Every time she hit or inflicted hurt upon the victim, the elderly woman would neither retaliate nor shout. Instead, she would say "sakit'' (Malay for pain) softly and apologise to the maid, despite not knowing what she had done which led to the assault.

Unknown to the maid, her actions of voluntarily causing hurt were recorded by a closed-circuit TV installed in the victim's room.  It was only when the victim complained to her daughter of pain in her head did the latter review the CCTV footage and saw what Sulastri had done.

The court heard that on three occasions on June 13, Sulastri forcefully hit the victim's shoulders with her hands, used a pillow to hit her face, and a comb to hit Madam Tan's head.

On June 20, she used a dustbin to hit the victim's leg, followed by a towel to hit her face. She also hit the victim on the face on three separate occasions the next day.

Pleading for a light sentence, Sulastri said her mother died in February last year and she had asked her employer for leave to go home but was rejected. She said she could not control her mind and took it out on the victim.

Chinese paper, Shin Min Daily News reported above maid also forcefully pinched Madam Tan's private part.  Judge commented maid is cruel and vicious.



Updated in Jun 2014
1) Indonesian maid charged with socialite's murderThe New Paper, 23 Mar 2014
She joined the family for only one week but murdered her employer.  What kind of strong hatred could there be?  Stressed?  Home sick?  Mental problem?  Unsuitable or not prepared to accept a FDW job then why agency and MOM not doing anything to stop such 'good life/princess maid' to be recruited and flooding Spore?  This kind of underaged (she is not yet 23 years old) and good life girl.... believe she didn't even need to lift her fingers to help her mother with chores, can only remain as mummy's baby and cannot work for anybody.  You want to work, your mentality has to change.  You fly here to work for a high salary, nobody employed you and promised you a rosy princess & stress-free life. 

2) Maid murdered wheel-chair borne,  The Straits Times, 21 Jan 2014

Four days after an elderly woman was found dead at home, her Indonesian maid was charged with murder on Saturday.  But the family of Madam Aandi Abdul Rahman Rasheeda Begam, 77, appeared shocked to hear from reporters that their maid had been charged.

Yati, 26, allegedly murdered Madam Aandi last Tuesday, some time between shortly after midnight and 11.33am, at the victim's flat in Serangoon North Avenue 4.  The Sunday Times understands that the funeral was held and the family did not suspect foul play. The case was established as murder after police investigations and the results of a postmortem.

Indonesian Embassy counsellor Sukmo Yuwono told The Sunday Times that Yati was arrested last Friday and the police told him yesterday morning that she would be charged with murder. The embassy is hiring a lawyer for her.  When reporters went to Madam Aandi's home yesterday, family members, who declined to be named, refused to believe that she might have been murdered.

"We didn't know about this at all, we were not told," said a teenage member of the family. The family declined to say more about the dead woman or the maid and what happened last week, and asked reporters to leave.  Neighbours said Madam Aandi, who needed a wheelchair, had been living in the executive flat for close to 20 years. She shared the home with her son, his wife and their two sons and daughter.

Chinese evening daily Shin Min Daily News reported that Yati is from West Java and has been working in Singapore for 11/2 years. She is married with a one-year-old son.  Last week, The Sunday Times reported that the Indonesian Embassy is calling for psychological testing of maids from the country before they arrive here.

There have been at least 16 reported homicide cases here involving maids since 2002, and 12 of them are Indonesian.

3) Reckless maid - life is child's play
Maid falls to death trying to climb back into apartment, The New Paper, 19 Apr 2014
She had locked herself out of her employer's apartment when she took out the garbage.  Panicking because she was mid-way through preparing dinner, she went to a neighbour's unit and asked to be let in.

Ms Mila, 29, did not make it. The domestic helper fell to her death at about 5.40pm yesterday at the Stadia condominium at Yio Chu Kang Road in Serangoon.  Mr Choo Y. K., 47, who works in sales, told The New Paper that the Filipino helper had worked for his parents for three years.  The elderly couple were not at home when it happened because they were out with Mr Choo's brother.

He said: "We didn't know what happened until I reached at around 6pm. I saw the police tents and later heard someone mention my parents' unit number and I realised that it was our maid."   He suspects she may have been worried because the frying pan had been left unattended.

Mr Choo shook his head and said: "She was so silly. She should have called one of us instead. It is such a pity."  The last they heard from the helper was in the afternoon, when she called Mr Choo's mother about preparing dinner. 

Mr Choo said he hopes the tragedy can serve to caution other helpers not to attempt such a risky move.  

Cling on to dear life, The New Paper, 9 Jan 2014
For more than 20 minutes, she hung on for her life - first on her own and then with her employer's help.  The Indonesian maid was eventually rescued by police officers after they broke into the fifth-storey HDB flat at Queens Road near Farrer Road last Saturday.

It is not known why she had climbed out of the kitchen window but it is believed she had been clinging on for several minutes before her female employer realised she was there.  The employer grabbed the maid's wrists to prevent her from falling but was not strong enough to pull her up to safety. All they could do was wait for help to arrive.

But when the police showed up about 20 minutes later, the employer did not dare to release her grip on the maid's hands to open the door.  Witnesses told The New Paper that they saw police officers force open the metal gate and wooden door to enter the flat.  Two police officers then pulled the maid back into the flat through the window.

Runaway maid, AsiaOne, 22 May 2012
A maid was found dead at the foot of an HDB block in Sembawang yesterday morning.  Her employer, known as Madam Goh, told The Straits Times that she suspects that this is due to an attempt by her Myanmar maid to run away.

The maid, 24, had fallen out of the 13th-storey flat's kitchen window and was found motionless at the foot of Block 421, Canberra Road at about 6.20am. She was declared dead on the scene by the paramedics.  

The maid had been working with Madam Goh's family for about two months, and was its second maid. Her duties included housework and taking care of Madam Goh's wheelchair-bound father.  However, she was found to be defiant and did not follow instructions. Hence, her employer had already asked the agency to take her back. She then agreed to stay on until a replacement came.

Madam Goh, who had woken up at 6am only to find the maid missing, said she didn't sense anything wrong before the incident. She related that the maid had even wished them good night before going to bed at about 10.30pm the night before.  Saying the maid knew where the keys to the front door and gate were, Madam Goh said she would rather the maid had used the gate to run away, instead of the window.

Safety is in maid's hand.  Your employer is not your nanny or babysitter and have to constantly remind you what is dangerous.  If you died, your family won't be able to touch or see you forever.  When you're careless, your employer suffers monetary losses while your beloved family will lose you forever.  Don't be so reckless and thoughtless.  Spore is not a playground.  

If you're really badly treated, there are many people waiting to be your saviour and won't hesitate to pour shit on your employer.  Help is either a phone call away or an unit away (neighbour).  Please note that you can't fly like butterfly nor climb like a monkey.  Please behave like a sensible human.  Be responsible, take safety seriously!

Reckless Indonesian maid found dead, The New Paper, 16 Oct 2013
When there was no breakfast ready as usual at 7am on Sunday, she knew something was wrong.  So the employer went to check on her maid who had started working for her two weeks ago.

Ms Siti, 29, an Indonesian, was not in the room, her employer, who declined to be named, told Shin Min Daily News.  But she spotted yellow cloth hanging out from the window of her fourth-storey Toa Payoh North flat.

Suspecting the worst, the woman went downstairs to investigate.  There, she saw her maid's motionless body.  It is not clear if she had fallen or the makeshift rope had given way.

The family declined to be interviewed when approached by The New Paper at their three-room flat on Sunday evening.  A teary-eyed middle-aged woman requested for privacy and said she had not eaten for the whole day.

Shin Min reported that the incident took place early on Sunday morning.  It is understood that the employers called the police.  

There was a (makeshift) rope near her made up of towels and blankets, and they were bloody too," said the housewife in her 50s, who declined to be named.  

Ms Siti's employer said she was treated kindly.  She was expected to work from 6am to 9pm to look after their cancer-stricken elderly mother and perform household chores.

The family asked her to join them to watch television occasionally and the employer's sister also brought Ms Siti new shoes when she saw that the helper did not have many shoes.

According to the employer, Ms Siti had two children.  Another neighbour, a 57-year-old retiree who wanted to be known only as Mr Chen, said that the family kept to themselves.  He had seen the new maid once and described her as petite and dark.  "If she wanted to leave, she should have just gone by the front door. They came to Singapore from a faraway place. It is such a pity," he said.

There were previously many cases of Indonesian maids falling from high-rise windows. Panic button was pressed.  Some said modern maids are too short.  Some blamed it on exterior window cleaning. Thus, MOM dished out a new law, no exterior window cleaning, from 4 Jun 2012.  The root problem is maids have attended safety class (SIP) before being employed but why they still take safety so lightly?  

Some Employers are worried that maid might get herself killed so had to do window cleaning as well as hang bamboo laundry themselves.  Some lazy maids, although being supervised, will tell employers they are not required or qualified to clean windows or hang laundry.  Any way, MOM is trying to tell us, our lives are not as important as maids.  If you or your family fall, don't blame HDB for building unsafe flats.  

4) Wounds on maid self-inflicted, The Star/Asia News Network Malaysia, 1 Mar 2014
Post-mortem results show that the stab wounds and slit throat found on the maid involved in the murder of two half-brothers are self-inflicted.

Initially, there had been speculation that a person close to the family had entered the house and killed the maid and the two boys.  

The police were trying to establish the motive for the double murder of Koay Jia Hong, five, and 18-month-old Melvin Selvam Joseph as well as the maid's suicide.  "We believe she may have spoken to her friends about her situation and we need to talk to them in order to shed some light into the case," he said.

It was reported yesterday that the police returned to the scene to retrieve the knives that were used in the murder-cum-suicide case.  Initial investigations revealed that the maid, in her 30s, had slit Jia Hong's throat upstairs before killing the younger half-brother in the same manner on the ground floor near the kitchen.

She then killed herself by slitting her own throat.

5) Myanmar maid charged with murder of 85-year-old, The Straits Times, 8 Mar 2014
A maid from Myanmar was charged on Wednesday with the murder of an 85-year-old Singaporean woman.  Than Than Win, 24, is accused of killing Madam Yong Wan Lan some time between 4.05pm and 5.23pm on Tuesday.

That day, police received a call at 5.23pm for assistance at Springdale Condominium in Hindhede Walk, off Upper Bukit Timah Road.  Madam Yong was found motionless on the floor of her eighth-floor unit, with wounds on her upper body. She was pronounced dead by paramedics at 6.27pm.

Madam Yong's family is believed to be Than Than Win's first employer since she was issued her work permit in March last year. The Straits Times understands that no one else was at home when the incident occurred.

In January, Indonesian maid Yati, 26, was charged with murdering a 77-year-old wheelchair-bound woman, who was found dead in her Serangoon flat. Last November, Indonesian maid Tuti Aeliyah, 28, was charged with the murder of her employer's 16-year-old daughter.  The victim was found with two fatal stab wounds in a bedroom of her Tampines home.

In November 2010, Indonesian maid Nurhayati, 16, pushed her employer's 12-year-old disabled daughter over the parapet wall from the 16th floor of their block of flats. She pleaded guilty to culpable homicide in October 2012 and was sentenced to 20 years in jail.

6) Indonesian maid murdered 12-year-old special needs girl, 25 Nov 2010, AsiaOne
An Indonesian maid has been officially arrested for the murder of 12-year-old Linda Li Yi Ling.  The 24-year-old maid (this is not her real age) who had been working for the girl's family will be charged with murder tomorrow. If convicted, she faces the death sentence.

According to the Lianhe Wanbao, investigations are still ongoing as to which floor the deceased was thrown down from.

Neighbours had told the Chinese evening daily that the maid had not worked very long for the family. She had been sent back to the maid agency before for unsatisfactory work performance. However, the family took her back after deciding to give her another chance.

Linda, who only recently learned how to walk, was found dead at the foot of a HDB flat in Hougang yesterday morning.  She lived with her parents on the fourth floor and studied at the Asian Women's Welfare Association's Special Needs School in Yio Chu Kang. Neighbours said that the girl was friendly, and liked to greet people, although her vocabulary was limited. She could say words like "papa", "mama", "hello" and "bye-bye". They would often see the maid bringing her to buy ice-cream from the neighbourhood's provision shop, and dinner from the nearby food centre.

The family is understood to have two maids who worked for them previously, with the last one working for the past three years. They have since left.

7) Man under maid's bed, The New Paper, 13 Sep 2013

When she woke up at midnight on Monday night, the family dog was licking her legs.  She got up and saw it running to the maid's room, sniffing and pawing at the door.  Sensing something was amiss, she opened the door and saw a man underneath the maid's bed. The maid wasn't in the room.

"When I saw him, I was scared to death," said the 78-year-old woman, who wanted to be known only as Madam Rose, in Mandarin.  She then called her son-in-law for help.  Other than the maid, the only other person in the house was her 86-year-old husband, who is bedridden after two strokes.

It turned out that the man was a foreigner, allegedly brought home by the family's Myanmar maid.  The maid, who had been working for the family for six weeks, denied knowing the man, who is believed to be working near their Bukit Timah house.

Madam Rose's son-in-law, who does not live with them, told The New Paper on Tuesday that he and his wife rushed to the scene.  He recounted: "I quickly opened the door of the maid's room, shined a torchlight in and found him there."  He then left the room and sought to keep the man in there. Using his body weight, he pushed against the door and called the police.  On the other end, he felt the man pushing back and trying to force his way out of the room.

"I also heard him talking to someone in the room, I think, over his mobile phone. He may have been calling his friends for advice," the son-in-law said, describing the unknown man as about 1.75m tall.  "I just caught him lying under the bed, I didn't know if he was armed. I wondered, 'Is he here to visit the maid or is he here to rob?'"

In the meantime, his wife, who is a doctor, had to stabilise his father-in-law as he seemed about to go into shock.  The son-in-law added that he was unsure how long it took before police arrived, as his main concern was to keep the struggling man in the room.

When the police arrived, they asked him to come out of the room, said Madam Rose.  "He knelt on my living room floor, crying and saying he was sorry," she said.  After being questioned, the man was released. It is understood that no offence was committed.

Yet about two weeks ago, a man who sounded like he was from Myanmar repeatedly called the house and Madam Rose's mobile phone, he said.  The son-in-law recounted: "We confronted her about it and she begged us to let her stay, but this incident crossed the line."  He added he informed the maid agency yesterday morning and the maid is now with the agency.

He declined to name the agency as he did not want to hamper any resolution of the situation In the 20 years the family has employed maids, this was the first time such an incident has occurred, he said.  He added that the family would have to get another maid to look after his father-in-law who suffered his second stroke in December last year. They are depending on home nursing for the time being.

8)  Added forbidden ingredient
Maid put menstrual blood in Employer's drink, The New Paper, 25 May 2012
A 24-year old Indonesian maid was yesterday charged with adding her menstrual blood into her employer's coffee cup.  Jumiah allegedly committed this act of mischief with malicious intentions at about 6am on Aug 31 last year in her employer's Choa Chu Kang flat.

She told the court that she intended to plead guilty.  For the act, she could be jailed up to one year or be fined, or both.

Maid jailed for trying to serve tainted water to employer, TODAY, 20 Nov
An Indonesian domestic worker was sent to jail for four months for attempting to serve her former employer water laced with insecticide.

On April 5, Pipih Sopiah, who was upset with her then-employer for scolding her, sprayed a cup of water with insecticideShe then rinsed the cup and refilled it before handing it to Ms Chong Bee San, 48.

In mitigation, the 28-year-old accused said, through an interpreter, that she is a single mother and has a daughter to take care of.

For acting rashly or negligently, which could endanger someone’s life or personal safety, Pipih could have been jailed up to six months and fined S$2,500

Activists, are you keen to have this special concoction?  If you felt eerie, how can you expect employers to tolerate and continue give chance to lousy FDWs?  How can you assumed FDWs are nice and kind human beings, coming with the mentality to work well?  Why none of you spared a thought, put yourself in unfortunate employer's shoes?

9) Indonesian maid stole $12,600 from elderly employer, AsiaOne, 23 May 2012
 Over a period of five months, Ratna Muhammad, 34, an Indonesian maid, managed to steal a grand total of $12,600 from her employer.

Between Oct 3, 2011 and March 22, she stole from her elderly employer, Madam Mah Puay Hoon, 86, on 72 occasions.  The maid was guilty of five counts of theft of Madam Mah's ATM card as well as another five counts of stealing amounts up to $1,000 via unauthorised ATM withdrawals.

The stolen money would then be remitted to her family in Indonesia.  When the maid had followed Madam Mah to the ATM previously, she took the opportunity to memorise the ATM card's personal identification number.

During the sentencing, another 134 charges of theft were taken into consideration.  Ratna Muhammad was sentenced to jail for a total of 12 months.

10) Maid gets 4 years' jail for abusing disabled boy, New Straits Times Malaysia, 5 May 2012
As a maid, 40-year-old Nanis Supardi was tasked with taking care of her employer's handicapped son, who is also bed-ridden.  Instead of giving full attention to the 11-year-old boy, the Indonesian maid had abused the boy including stepping on his face, neck, chest and stomach.

The mother of four also covered the victim's face with a piece of cloth before forcing the helpless boy to drink.  Nanis' cruel acts were recorded on a closed-circuit television camera and she was yesterday sentenced to four years' jail after pleading guilty to abusing the boy at her employer's home in Kampung Batu Hitam between 6pm and 6.30pm on March 13.

She was also sentenced to six months' jail after she pleaded guilty to overstaying as her social visit pass had expired on Feb 29.  The woman, from East Java, was expressionless, when Sessions Court judge Noradidah Ahmad meted out the sentence, which was translated into Javanese by a court interpreter.

When Noradida said her act was cruel as the victim could not even move, Nanis, only said that she khilaf (had made a mistake).  Nanis was unrepresented, while deputy public prosecutor Hidayatul Syuhada Shamsudin prosecuted.  In mitigation, Nanis pleaded for leniency as she had to support her children after she was divorced.

However, Hidayatul had pressed for a stiffer penalty arguing that Nanis, being a mother herself, should not have been so cruel to a child.  According to the facts, Nanis was hired barely a month before the incident, when she was alone with the victim.  The victim's mother suspected something amiss when she realised that her son was very weak and immediately checked the CCTV recording when she returned from work on March 13.

No matter what, protecting your child is of utmost importance.  CCTV is your only proof.  When you hire a maid, let her know there's CCTV.  If she refused to work in such a house and retorted you're invading her privacy (I'm sure you won't install in the toilet), strike her off your list, she's not going to be a co-operative and good helper.  Such maid seems to look for find opportunities to engage in personal things when you're not at home.   

Activists/Ministers/MOM won't side you just because child look like abused.  Having CCTV will spread up the investigation process and end your ordeal earlier.  CCTV is a deterrent.  Not a device for you to see your FDW undressed, shower or her sleeping style.

11) Cherry picking maid, The Straits Times, 23 Mar 2014

Ong Chin Meng: Recently, my family hired a Filipino maid to replace our previous one, who left after completing her contract.  We interviewed the new maid twice over the phone and told her about the duties expected of her. She could clearly understand what we said as she asked several follow-up questions and assured us that she was willing to work for us.

However, after barely two weeks with us, she asked to be sent back to her agency.  She told the agency she did not want to work for us anymore and demanded a transfer. Clearly, she was cherry-picking employers and wanted easier duties.  There was little we could do. We had given the maid a loan to pay the placement fee. We also paid a huge sum to the agency to bring her to Singapore.

To ensure that we got our refund for the loan and for the agency to find us a replacement maid, we had to allow the transfer.  The agency had few choices too. Since it had to refund us and cover the cost of the replacement maid, it had to ensure the maid continued working to pay off her loan. If she was sent home, the agency would suffer a loss.

My situation is not unique. A check on online forums will show that this is a common tactic used by maids.  The law needs to be strengthened to protect employers.  The practice of getting employers to give loans to maids to cover their placement fees should be banned.

Clamping down on the transfer market would encourage both employers and maids to work things out and fulfil their obligations to each other.

12) A live-in thief but 'accepted'
I copied this from a forum that banned me.  Don't intend to put any hyperlink or screenshots.  

CarrotTree:  Mum used to be very independent and domineering over everyone but after she became frail and weak recently we employed an experienced Indo maid to keep her company during the day and to take care of her. 

Just barely 4 months, mum seems to be so afraid to lose this maid and afraid of her. Although she knows the maid steals things from the household she is unwilling to expose her and even speaks up for the maid. 

This experienced maid is good is smart and good in doing housework. But she is dishonest and arrognant and shows face. Unwilling to accept instructions and even argues with mum especially when there is no one at home. 

Recenty also stole things from my house when maid and mum came to stay with my household for a few days. Mum even ask me to overlook this bad character on account that she needs the maid.  I am in dilemma now. Is there a mental abuse or emotional abuse from maid such that mum seems so afraid to lose her. 
12mum:  Your mum is fragile but still mentally alert and the maid is already not behaving herself....send the maid away. Your mum should not be subjected to such sufferings. To live in fear for the rest of your life is inhuman.

Get a new maid and if possible send both the maid and your mum to a day care centre. This is one option my family and I are looking at in the near future for my eldest sister when she is discharged from hospital. Our Last option is to put her in a private nursing home and do without the maid. 

buds:  CarrotTree, the helper needs to be fired asap.
There is no peace of mind for anyone in the house. The helper will be helping herself to even more, who knows, she may even come up with other antics, knowing no one dares to report her or send her back.  I hope things will improve soon for your mother. I feel sad for you and your mother, to go through this horrid experience with this helper.

POA:  Explain to your mum that you will get a replacement maid.
Your mum may be worried that she won't have a maid to be with her if you send this maid off.  She may also be worried that you may resort to the alternative of sending her to a nursing home.

Winter:  Not all employer can fire a maid whenever they fancy or instantly.  There are a lot of things to consider, make adjustment and 'sacrifices', not forgetting a new cycle of recruitment & fees.  Believe it or not, pay more but get lower work quality and purposely under perform maid is the current trend.  We're at the mercy of FDW, agency, MOM and embassy.

13) Maid's off day 
trimummy: my ex-maid cooks curry chicken and rice to bring on her picnics with her friends and don't bother to ask me or inform me abt it. Even use my paper plates and cutlery! When I ask her how come my disposable plates and cutlery were all used up when there's no party at my place and she just act blur and say dunno. All the extra paper plates and cutlery I found it in a paper bag hidden in her room. She even wanted to bring the entire bottle of Ribena cordial out for her party but I think she forgotten cos she simply just left it hidden behind the fridge! I found it just 2 weeks before I decided to send her home. Aft seeing that, I knew I made the right decision to send her back.

janetmaids get brainwashed when they have off days...they don't use their brains and have any sense of loyalty...just listen blindly  they start having attitude problems, comparing their work with their 'friends' and steal. 

then they start having BGR problems as well.
this maid i know cooks at home to bring lunch out and then comes home for dinner...sure knows how to sponge on employer.

what i like about the idea of maids going out on off day is knowing how much it costs to buy lunch and dinner as well as taking transport using OWN money.

sunset: dont give maid off day better, not even once a month. 
once you give them off day, its going to be real headaches, BGR, tempted to ask for more salary to meet their outing expenses, maid and maid conversation will be comparing salary, how many off days, how to fight for highest salary. My previous maid told me her friends told her to ask for salary $600 and every weekly off if she renew her contract.
(In my heart, I was thinking she can jolly well pack her bag and leave my house). 

During off days, she will tell me her friend employer organised birthday parties and invited all the maids friends to her house, or her friend's birthday, employer give $$ to let her bring friends to hotel to eat buffet. Hmm, seem like hinting me i should give her a grand bdae party!

Anyway i ask her to pack her bag 2 days before her birthday, that was my birthday gift to her! I took this Myanmar maid no off day, no marketing. Just stay at home. 
I find them better, they are like those olden batch of indonesia maid, listen to you, scare make mistakes. Of course, having a good maid also depend on luck.

ScaredyMum:  If my maid were to ask me if she can bring food to meet her friends on her off day, I will tell her, "Sure... U can buy from the coffee shop and hawker then bring lor!"

Hwr, I do suspect that when she cooks lunch for my kids, she may have cooked extra and bring to share with the other helpers when waiting for kiddo to be released from school. Sometimes I find things like rice or eggs etc finishing faster, I will ask her why this round the rice/eggs etc finish so fast. I don't expect her to admit she cooked to share with friends but at least I give the message that I am well aware of things in my household and don't try to be funny.

janet:  Bil's maid better still...sell off all the food stuff in the house to earn pocket money...at home, no off day. 

Maids may be humans, those looking after old people which I admit not easy especially if dementia cases. But when given off days, they listen blindly and come back with all the crap taught by their fellow countrymen. 

Seriously, our MOM should care more about us than giving maids too many rights. These maids assess the employers...calculative too..work too tough, they want to change employer. If don't get their way, they give employer hell until they get sent back to the agency. Then while looking for new employer sitting at agency doing nothing, present employer have to pay for living expenses for 2 weeks.

autumnbronze:  My previous maid was in her thirties.  She was a divorcee with a teenage DD. She would have 2 Sundays off a month. She would leave at 9am and return by 8pm. She was late most of the time but would call with some excuse. To my knowledge, she was short of money constantly and I gave her ang pow during Christmas cuz she was under loan and was going out on her off days.

She hung out at Orchard Towers. She drank. She had boyfriends. She had ringworm. I once found viagara pills in the drawer. She requested not to do any cooking and she skived in her housework. I had never seen so many cockroaches in my kitchen before she came. 

MizzNAH: My ex-maid used to leave our house at 10 am after she completed the basic housework and returned by 7 pm. We sent her back when she got pregnant. She having affair with a foreign worker during her off day. My current maid is without off day and we compensate her. 

She brought along the house key in case we are not back when she return.  We don't check anything. Just a matter of trust and to ease us mentally.

outandbound: we have had her for 9 months and she's been great apart from a few issues. We have 2 young children and she has been great with the 1st one less so with the second but no real issues. 

we give her time off when she requests, ie 2 evenings a week for a few hours then Sundays. She eats better than we do, she has a large spare room with AC, she chats on the phone to her friends when we are around. 

She's requested an advance nearly each month, which I usually accept, but this month she wanted another double her salary which I refused, due to the fact she has no money and sends everything home, oh and I find her irritating, ie no effort to speak English. My concern is that she is now talking quite badly to my wife's mother and family about us, thinking she is a friend rather than a meddling gossip. I feel she has stepped too far over the mark, twice now. 

Winter:  JA often leaves the house for her off with a hand carry bag and her sling or shoulder bag. I didn't check.  So what I found she has helped herself to my things?  It will sour the relationship and may make her take revenge on my girl.  It is not that I trust her or she is doing well, I'm just too exhausted to watch here, watch there and add more headaches cum unhappy findings.... spoil my day.  Ever since I became a special needs mum cum domestic maid's employer, my happy days aren't a lot.  Purposely finding fault is not my cup of tea unless she did something too obvious, hard to miss.  I have given JA a copy of my house rules so I hope she won't use forget/don't know as an excuse.  If she tells me she's blind, can't see ....then I wouldn't have employed her. I'm not her mother, not my duty to keep reminding her the Dos and Donts. 自动自爱 少给我惹麻烦

14) Facebook maid-thief, Straits Times, 4 Jun 2014
A maid stole $6,300 worth of jewellery from her employer on her last day of work but was caught after photos of the loot she posted on Facebook came to her victim's attention.

Filipino Evelyn Macaraya Clotario, 35, was sentenced to three months in jail on Wednesday after pleading guilty to stealing from 42-year-old Scalzi Barbara. Only about $2,000 of the loot - which included necklaces, bracelets and rings - was recovered as Clotario had remitted the rest back home.  She worked for the Briton from Feb 21, 2012 to Jan 21 this year at the Flynn Park condominium along Yew Siang Road.

In May, Ms Scalzi's friend told her about how her own maid had stolen a necklace and she only discovered the theft after checking the maid's Facebook page.

A search on Facebook would reveal the profile of a certain Clotario Evelyn based in Singapore. One photo showed four necklaces, three bracelets and six rings placed on a pillow with the caption, “Mao intawon ny naane sa pagkaud dri.” A rough translation of the phrase is “Ganyan and nakukuha/naaani sa pagtatatrabaho/pagsisipag dito (This is what you get from working).”

Winter:  When I read this, I was thinking should I post here?  If I post, will more going-home maids do the same thing?  Will FDWs start to use short or false name to create Facebook accounts so as not be be tracked or caught red-handed? Then I decided to post because maids are very clever (became cunning), they can still 'learn this skill' elsewhere.  You don't want FDWs to turn bad (some employers reluctant to give off days), the more you restrict them, the more they want to break free.  Thrilling?  Rebellious?  Greedy?  Some employers would check their going-home FDWs' luggages but if bad FDWs want to steal, they can slowly pack the loot and pass to friends then meet up at home country... no bullet-proof method if a maid wants to be a live in thief.  They are too clever and some felt their employers are rich, taking a little is alright!

15)  The Actress 
mokymok: I heard of a similar case from a relative of her "long-time" maid suddenly changing to bad work attitude and towards her and also wanted to send her home when her contract expires (soon). The reason which she found out suddenly thinking through is because she forgot the maid's birthday by giving her a birthday present like every other year ! (her hubby and kids actually wished her happy bday just that she forgot bcos she was caught up with work and happened to be overseas) She then gave her a belated bday present and apologized for forgeting her bday and then, asked she if she would like to continue working in her home and the maid "suddenly" went back to "normal". 

I think they (maid) also want to feel like they are part of the family and that u remember the "little" things about them. Unless she thinks you can't live without her and start to "act big" then I agree, time to let her go...

sunny_side: sometimes i find it very amazing that maids who have worked few years for an employer can suddenly 'change face'. I have heard many of such stories before and have told myself that cannot expect maid to be grateful to you even though u treat them nice. My maid worked for me 3 years liao so far still ok but i am prepared for the day when she suddenly will 'go crazy'. I mean, if you dun feel like working already, just say so la...no need to change attitude or chu pattern right. why cannot go off on a happy note for everyone. End of the day, no need to try to treat them like family. you will only make yourself unhappy at the end.

wendysu:  All the while maid's performance is good and as time goes by, we also become close of course there is bounds to be some line drawn when comes to work. However, ever since the past 3 months plus, her working attitude and bad performance had drove me to the limits. She began to talk loud to my kids, not fulfilling her duites, every time gave us a sulking or black face but when meet others, jokes and sweet smile. When we ask her to do things, she will show you a face like reluctant. Everytime forget this and that. Blah Blah Blah. In fact previously she already wanted to go back but we ask her to consider staying until my DS primary one. She agreed to stay.

For the past years, i have been saying want to send her back, dunno how many hundred times but every time my heart will be soften, partly also become my kids very attached to her too and i can't imagine what will happen if there is a new maid. 

But this is the last time i will be tolerating her, i am going send her back. 

jeslin88: Indonesian maid-MUNAWAROH, passport no. AM697160, date of birth 22-1-1986, ex-permit no.006804233, period of work from 2-5-2009 to 26-7-2009. 

She was diagnosed with THALASSAEMIA- a hereditary blood disorder, when we brought her for full body check-up (it's the norm in our family to bring new maid for full check-up), so she tires easily, rests as early as 8pm, but we still give her another chance. She was employed to look after an bedridden elderly, housekeeping (4rm flat), very little cooking is done. 

For 1st 2 months, she pretends to be good, caring, obedient, diligent, thrifty (as in no wastage or throwing of food). All's well, we treat her like one of us, no stress, she says she wants go temple, we bring her. She prays, we never say anything. She likes stare into space, daydreams. We noticed she seems a bit weird since 2nd week she's with us, inform agent, checked and said nothing's wrong, no problem with her. 

But beginning of 3rd month, she starts get lazy, wake up 5am, but never do anything till 7am. Takes more than half day to wash 2 toilets, sweep and mop floor, use washing machine wash and hang clothes, cook a small pot of porridge for Ah-ma, no cooking of lunch. When it's time to cook dinner, she'll look for an excuse do other things-like ironing, sweep or mop floor. Also she starts throw and waste food, on diet, always saying she's full whenever it's mealtime; self-centered; proud (look down on her own fellow country maids); unhygienic; selfish; superstitious (don't want go out when it's dark, praying more often); no manners; bad body language; a liar (accuses we treat her no good); temperamental (she'll take her pillow and blanket sleep in living room whenever she's unhappy, or show us her temper); uncaring towards Ah-ma. Sais she only got 'power' do work in afternoon which is untrue; don't or can't accept any opinions when voiced out to her; stubborn; no put in more effort learn or do things (still don't know how change Ah-ma's diaper, ever change once but no good, since then no change or learn); think she's a VIP maid, already do very well. Never once did we raise our voice talk or scold her, yet she's still unhappy, ask her, she said nothing's wrong, happy. 

Finally we brought her back to agent let her relax for few days, ask agent try find out what's wrong so we can help and understand her more. But the very next day, we decided not take her back as we found notes she's written, which upon translation, it's suicidal, saying she wants to be with her God, her devotion with God, she's not owned by anyone, not even her boyfriend. Also we discovered that all this time while we trust her, never check her work, her housekeeping is in a mess, all done in a sluggish manner, she only pretends to work.

16)  The liar
lovebear:  Maids are maids, and they usually are very 无情. Money is the motivator for them to treat you with respect or care.

When I was very young, I had a maid who cared for me from birth to when I was in P2. I was very attached to her because I see her more than my parents. When she decide to leave at the end of her contract, I emptied my savings (about $3k) and gave them to her (without my parents' knowledge), my sibling also did the same. We treated her like a family. My mom even bought her jewellery (四点金) worth more than $8k as she claimed she is going home to get married and start a family.

About 6 months later, when we were out at the malls with my parents, we saw her with her new ang mo employer. My mom asked her why she didn't contact us if she needed a job and she snapped and asked my mom if we can afford her! Said her current employer pays her 2x more than when she was with us and she is entitled to weekly day offs (which we used to compensate her with cash).

deonPrihatini Sugianto DOB 20 April 1980 from Indonesia. 
Got her as a transfer maid but have sent her back after 1 mth with us. She was with previous employer for 3 months. She's a terrible liar (very good liar to be precise as she can spin stories that are quite convincing) and will fake fainting spells. 

Worst of all, despite being a mother herself, she can't take care of children. 

hz47: Yati Karyati Kamal, DOB 24/02/1977 and the passport number S957941. She was temperamental and refused to work when she was in a bad mood. She took it for granted that she was entitled to half of the fruit we bought even though including her, there were four in the family. She habitually broke things and never admitted it was her own fault. She agreed to 2 off days a month after my giving birth and in return, we allowed her to take all public holidays off before that. Then she quit after my birth, without giving even one day's advance notice to us, the people who threw her a party on her birthday in addition to giving her a 100$ red pocket. 

bboy: Faingason Rosela Sarsua, DOB: 18 June 1980 
Rosela worked for about 6 months. housework's not heavy as she dont have to cook, dont have to bath kids, dont have to put kids to sleep and dont have to take care kids at night. basically very simple housework of washing and cleaning. take care of kids less than 5 hrs add on per day. im her no.2 employer in Singapore. she was with another employer for less than 1 week as she said she was not given enough food. her problems with us: 
- keep asking for hp and offday after 1 month work. 
- love to compare us with her past employer in oth country (dubai if im not wrong) 
- she will talk back. never admit mistake. never apologize. never say sorry to us. 
- washing not clean. clothing always put not in the right place. when we asked her, she said have already put all in right place. 
- verbally abuse kids. said kids lazy and monkey talk. dont like to take care of kids. no carring twds kids. 
- she will lie without blink eyes. 
- she is DIRTY. her wardrobe left expired food and paper candy (found out only aft sent her back agent) 
- she takes 1 hrs to throw recycle thing to the downstair. when we asked her nicely did anything happened and she just said no. 

This maid is always not consistent in her talking. This maid does not honor her words. She always twists her words. Maid knew we depend on her. She threatened us many times starting work that she wants to quit on employers whenever she likes. As her employers, we are very fed up of her. 

start to show unhappy face and said i lazy never take care of kids to agent when we sent her back. Stolen money and lie the most reasons why we sent her back agent.

was told by agent iloilo village area so we thought must be quite obedient but in fact NO. Rosela said come sg work no training was given to her so she knew nothing abt sg here. she said last time another country training 1 mth. employer super good to her. she also said last time she only took care of 1 bb and no housework. my husband said to her "your salary 4xx and you expect to do little things?" she replied 4xx is not much. she do a lot of things compare to her last employer. she loves so much to compare to her last employer. 

musicbox:  Last time my ex-maid also told me her friends can go back home after been transferred a few times, no need pay back her loan, this worry me as it seem they can purposely do wrong so that can be sent home, but after asking my agent, my agent said they're just making up the stories, when u asked them who is their friends, they cannot name. my ex-maid also told me her friend's employer allowed the friend to go home for 2 weeks even though the friend just came SG for a month, the employer let her friend go home visit family first before starting work, now think of it, all bullshit, which employer so good to let the maid go home first before starting work?  

Btw I believe many mummies don't have the choice not to let the kids stay at home with maid, especially those who cannot depends on parents in law. Imagine those earning just enough to feed the family, dual income is a must, infant care centre can cost $1000 after subsidy, so I believe if there's a choice, no one would want to hire maid and let the children be with them.

findwenz:  Siti Manissah from Indonesia whom is an ex SG Maid.  Previously, on the 25.04.12, She was brought to my home. Before hand I had told her that upon the loan completed (which is 8 months for her) you could have a hand-phone to use as now learning in a new environment need to be focus. I even brought her calling cards for her to call back to her family not to worry.

Case 1: Money (Included my daughter’s piggy monies starting to get lesser) and Landline usage getting higher and higher. My Chanel Makeup seems getting low,
Clothing have funny smell and even once my whole home smell stale.

Case 2: On Sept 1st 2012, My Hubby Spare Nokia Mobile Phone and Home Keys left in the car was lost and when we asked her did you see the HP (She is the only one cleaning the car) reply "Mum I didn't see Sir HP and I don't know!

On the 18.09.2012 at 11:15pm, after work and wanted to take a look at my gals in their room. When I open the doors, I saw Siti cover her face with a pillow and mobile light appear. She was Shocked! And use another pillows covers the mobile phone.

In the middle of the Night 3am; I walk into my gals’ room. To my surprise, TA DA! I found my hubby’s missing mobile hand phone was on her bed while all of them are sleeping soundly in the room. I took the phone and walk out in silent mode. I walk towards my bedroom and told my hubby “ Babi I found your handphone, He was like half sleep and half awake says “HUH? Where you find?” I was behaving like a kid that found the treasure hunt map. “ It’s with Siti along…!” Hubby told me “ Jai Luck, like that” And “What you going to do with her?”, I asked. He replied “ Let me sleep tomorrow morning we discuss”.

I walk towards my living Room and started to explore the phone.“ Woolalala…juicy news” at that very moment I seem like a paparazzi digging news. I browse through the phone.
I saw a SMS ON 15.9.12 at 4:47:22am “ Darling I come already”
Another SMS 15.9.12 at 4:49:25am “Darling come faster lah”
Siti send SMS on 15.09.2012 to “A Guy” at 5:22:34am “ Darling sory today I am ca’nt meet u. becos my bos sleeping outside the lving room.” Follow by a call on the mobile to “A Guy” on 15.09.2012 at 6:55am. After reading the 240 inbox, 179 Sent SMS from 3 different men in SG, One from Indonesian and mixed of maids SMS in broken Indonesian languages. I walk back to my room and told my Hubby She have men outside; he told me we have to send her back and falls back to sleep. I was planning my mind how to trick her and show her tail
I simply kept it in my bag for the past 2 days. She was calling and asking all others to call her mobile phone and even use home phone to call to search for it.

I went home with ignorance and walk towards Kitchen to get a cup of water. Siti walks towards and asked “ MUM DID U TAKE SIR HANDPHONE??? In my mind, I was like “What the F*** are you talking about. You are a wolf in sheep’s skin still dare to asked me?” I told her like “What Hand phone and whose Hand phone ??”
Siti kept quiet for a moment and told me innocently “Mum, I found under the car on the 14.9.12.I didn’t take Sir’s Hand phone. I only borrow” My reply: “Did you asked Sir for Permission?” She says NO.

To my horrid, she been posting in Facebook wearing my 12 Yrs Old daughter’s clothes and she has BO. She worn the clothes and put back without washing.   I was boiling with anger and print screen all her photos with comment and print out. She didn't know that I found out her Face book.

Next Day, we arrived at the agency. I talk to the agent in a room and show him all the evidence. The agent called her in and questions her, She kept deny that it wasn’t her fault and her friend instruct her this and that. And I told the agent “ I can’t continue listening to her, She is telling lies without blinking her eyes.”

aquamarineac: i have recently just sent back my helper who has 15 years of experience in Singapore immediately due to her attitude after 3 months of employment. She is very rude and always has tons on excuse when we asked her somethings. Although she do not steal but she likes to tell lies and show off.

After these few encounters, we called the agent and told the agent that if she do not change her attitude, we will not want her to work for us anymore. When agent asked her why she turned herself around and do not looked at her employer when the employer is talking to her, she argued with the agent that she was scared and worried that the employer would picked up a tupperware and hit her. When the agent told me this, I was very angry. Luckily is that I have cameras installed at my home and were recording 24hrs/7days. I told the agent that I have evidence to prove that she is telling lies.

Fatimah Karna, Work Permit: 0 01109111, Indonesian

babyys: I have a bad maid from Indon. She run away in Jan 2013.  Sutinah, Work permit: 0 07904355

She said she want to go back to agent after 1 week because she said she cannot take care of baby. I ask her to wait for replacement maid then I will release her but she run away after 1 month. Before we employ her, the agent highly recommended her and she also say yes to all tasks that we will assign for her during interview. After we paid the agent fee, paid for her loan and problems start to come. She is not as bad as other maids posted here but she is not honest and careless. She broke my utensil during 1st day and broke my daugther toy which cost more than $100. I also keep quite.

My 3 yrs old daugther injured 3 times under her care. 1st time is my daughter neck hit the corner of table at coffee shop. 2nd time is my daughter fall down and hit the glass table top caused ear bleeding. 3rd time is her thumb was clamped at door hinge and the maid tried to close my daughter mouth and not to let her cry. My daughter is playful but all these accidents never happen before under our own care and my 1st maid care.

Very fast, I think 3 days later got somebody employed her. I had made a police report on the day she run away but MOM still renewed this kind of maid permit. I have paid the maid agent fee $1388 and till now no replacement, the placement fee still never return to us. The agent said if we want to get back the placement fee, we need to pay $500+ contract termination fee. We get lousy maid, lousy service, get troubles, loss money and again the maid agent can make money from new employer who employed the runaway maid and also additional fee from the maid. I ask the agent, what is their liability, he say basically no liability.

What kind of system is this? Only making money? I thought we are the customer? Obviously the agent and the maid had cheated us and started all the troubles. If they don't lie to me, I won't pay the fee and sign stupid and unfair contract.  Can I get back all my money or even agent fee from small claim court? Or just blow up this matter to media, let whole Singapore know and alert more people about bad maid and bad agent?

maid_issueAfter my mother in-law left, my maid (Name: Asedilla lee jane genilla, WP NO: 026180295) started troubling me. 

1. she hurt my 1 1/2 year baby ,I saw lot of scratches on the body with blood marks, I ask her what happened, answer I DON’T KNOW. 
2. She miss use the phone, I ask why land number engaged for long time, answer “I DON’T KNOW”, 
3. Keep telling lies, she is not honest and plays always cheap tricks and always tells lies. 
4. I found my money and baby gold bracelet missing in my absence, if i find missing something, the only answer she knew is I DON’T KNOW. 

Throughout this period I suffered a lot, Every time she ask for transfer she told so many reasons, for the first time she told my first kid(who is 4 ½ years old) is doing some funny things that’s what she need a transfer. I took her to the agency and let them talk to her, after comes back she said something happened to her brain and now ok to continue. 

She starts stealing valuables (gold bracelet of my 1 ½ years old boy which is 12 grams) at home and she makes sure it won’t get found in her luggage. She might have passed to her friends while she drop/fetch my daughter from the school.   
I search her luggage in her presence found some naked photos of her, god only knows what the hell she does while she go for day off.

meowmeow1234:  CARCASITAS ROSE GARDOCE, Work Permit#: WP#: 0 26552109 
I have a bad maid here. I interviewed her face to face at agency. She told me she really need a job and able to take hardship and need monies for her sons in philippines for schooling. She told me she is single parent not marry. Her mother died not long ago in Apr 2013, sister take care of her sons while here, both sons aged 12 & 13.   The terms & conditions i want her to work is all stated clearly & explained thrice or more times to her; she agreed. 

Nightmare came after she got her first salary. Day in day out keep asking her salary, everyday want to use HP despite no value, bluff my mum to let her use our home phone to call, waste food, throw away food that she don't like and bluff said she ate (my mum found inside dust bin), everyday telling my mum she has this she has that to buy, she need this she need that, just to escape out.   She mentioned her sister work here everyday HP,  everyday can go out, her friends frequently go Lucky Plaza. 

Trisha26:  I also have a bad maid currently at home. 
She worked for a Filipino family for almost three years. She told me she was very close to her former employer. She said she'd buy her almost everything she needs. She also told me that they did not have a problem. 

Later on, a friend of mine introduced me to her ex employer. The employer told me that all the maid said were all a lie. That she was such a big headache during her employment with her. And that she got terminated right after the second year. 

My problem with her started about three weeks after she started. During her off day, she'll come back so late. Past 11pm. Sometimes, she comes home drunk. Sometimes, she comes home past midnight. I talked to her and told her if she can come home at least 9pm because the next day is school day. But she only followed for three weeks then came home again at 10:30pm onwards. 

berlin:  Maria Sandra Pael Gerona, Work Permit: 0 25580869  (Winter: take note that all FDW's work permit number won't change no matter how many passports she had and how many employers she had.  If she returns with a fake name, new ID so new WP, you can't track)

Kindly check on MOM website she already had 5 employers within 1.5years (none of them lasting 6months).   We're a small family , a couple with 1yr old toddler. No pets, no inlaws. She was a transfer maid. She was good during her 1st month. She started showing her true colors during her second month. 

We're 1st time employer, kept giving her so many chances till we gave up. Thought that a 39yr old mother would be a mature good maid. She's not only forgetful, super lazy, very cunning, always telling lies, taking our things to bar trade with other maids, gossiping, ungrateful. 

17)  The abuser
michelle_wei: My maid has worked 4 months only. She is a terrible Fillipino maid. I am a mum with Avascular Neucrosis and have both my hips replacement immediately after I gave birth to my daughter. Because of my pregnancy I lost my hips. I am not able to take care of my children with this medical condition as doctor advises against kneeling , squatting , carrying a child or heavy objects and showering my child. 

I have no choice but to employ maids , however most of my maids are not keen in working. They are all liars, after getting their work permit, they wanted a transfer to find household jobs or looking after old people. Though job scope is looking after my 2 children during their interview they say yes to everything but once they have their work permit, they hit my child to force me to sack her

My this current 29 year old Fillipino maid is worse. When first come, we already told her that my 2 young children are very playful so anything just tell me and cannot hit them . But my 2 and a half year old daughter was hit at the knees there until she cannot walk that day. When I confronted her, she said, Cannot hit ar, I want to hit I hit . When I say her again, she say, Only one time only, what is the big deal, go your embassy lah. 

She is vain and hussy though not pretty , always smiling at man outside, but at my home always showing a black face to me and my children. She is married with 3 children. She even sarcastically told me, If you don't like me, sack me , I packed my suitcase already. 

joop_811: JESSICA ALAURIN PANGILINAN, Work Permit: 026396379. For this one, everyone needs to be extremely careful. Very smart, very sharp and very conniving. She will even plot to get your husband. She will comment on your husband, "Sir is so quiet.. why doesn't talk to me ah?" 

When we installed CCTV, she will take down every downlight to see if we have other pinhole cameras. She will hit your child and leave no marks. Slapping their butts so hard while they are in diapers. Of course, some may say, no harm done since no marks. But who the hell is she to slap my daughter's butt??? And the reason for the slap was so that my daughter will leave her alone to sms in the day time. My daughter just turned 1 year old. She of course can't speak and she cannot walk either. When Jessica wants to touch and do nothing, she will command that my daughter sits there quietly beside her. If my daughter crawls away, she will be pulled back by her romper. If my daughter doesn't listen, she will raise my daughter in the air and slam her down on her butt. 

After we sent her back, I told her husband, "your wife has an affair". Next day, Jessica questioned me, "Y u need to do this. I have 3 children."

For now, my purpose of sharing is to warn everyone of these merciless maids. they do not deserve sympathy. They do not deserve respect if they do not even respect themselves. All of them are like super "high-class". 

They will put on the most pitiful look... They want handphones and are often not satisfied with just one. They want one each from each boyfriends and keep another one for husband and children. In this way, it is easier for them to decide who to answer and who to ignore. They want connectivity to the Internet. They want to use FB. They want the world. I always tell them during interviews, "think carefully before you agree to work for me. Being a maid is not easy. You have to be mentally prepared to work." Of course, all will nod their heads in eagerness.  Let's reserve our sympathy for more deserving people.

Harmony:  Catherine Vizco Padillo, Work Permit No: 0 2498035
The maid insisted I pay for her taxi fares for her personal use during her rest day on Sunday Nov 17 2013, she also added that she is just trying her luck as most of her friends say she is not entitled to such a thing. When I returned home from work on the following day, the FDW spoke to me of the recent Tampines murder of the maid killing the employer’s child, and added this is all because the employer was not good to the FDW. She further continued that there was also a case where a Filipino maid drowned the employer’s 2 young kids “by mistake.” I have 2 young kids aged 2 and 5 and it was an insinuated threat

I was told on Dec 7 2013, that the maid’s mother is severely ill and cannot take care of her children (who are 20, 19, and 11 year old all very self sufficient ages) she needs to go back immediately. I offered to send her back and wait for her until she returns. She has advised us that she does not intend to return to Singapore again to work (which is a complete lie). 

Despite the fact that she has received an advanced salary all the way until the end of December 2013, within one week I booked her a flight home on the 26 December, 2013. When I communicated this flight booking, she started screaming shouting and kicking, demanding why is the flight not booked before Christmas and threatened us that she CAN and WILL runaway. She further continued shouting that she will kill herself and be sent back to the Philippines dead or alive.

From my terrifying experiences I have shared I hope I can help and prevent other families with similar situations as us from being psychologically abused.

SGMommynow:  Jorgea Bayron Caliao, Passport No.: EB5050324, DOB: 27/07/1967
It was a very fresh and recent event that I only happen to found out about her very rude conduct and mistreated to our 2 year old child. I am still in shock and trauma until now as she was very fierce and we had a very bad confrontation to the point of pushing her away to leave the house and deport her, (back to Philippines). 

what happened was, i left the house and didn't inform her whether i will take a while. then 2 hours later, when i reached home, i caught her, screaming really loud at my daughter who was crying in front of her. (i would think its normal that a child cries when she wakes up from her afternoon nap.) but Being her nanny, and as a mother also ( note: she was a mother of 4), you know that its normal right?, to my horror, as i hid myself next to our flat's gate, she kept on screaming loudly and scolding my daughter for crying, the nanny was throwing her toys, provoking the child to cry some more, teasing like a crazy woman, bullying the poor little toddler. As i couldn't take it anymore, and thought that she might hurt the child, I showed up, and suddenly? she toned down her voice and letting the child calm down. it was a 360 degree turn of voice. what the hell?!? so i confronted her and she denied and we started arguing, and she blew her top too, she started recalling that she just wasted our time for us! in the first place, you do not have the right to should/scold/scream at my daughter. nobody is! she was a mother too! she should know!

She is very choosy of her coffee. She wanted nescafe 3in1 only and never never run out of it in the kitchen, or else, she will ignore you just like her enemy and will never listen to your commands. I bought her Old Town coffee and she ignored it and when we did groceries. she picked up another pack of nescafe. wow! she must be a rich girl back in her town!

She takes pictures of everything that is not in order in our house, FOR WHAT??? my brother caught her recently. when he asked her why? she said : Im tried of your brother in law (my husband, her boss), everytime he uses the bidet in the toilet he never hangs it correctly! WHOAH!! really crazy!!!  She has intentions of getting "proofs" against us.

She owes my siblings money and asks them that she will repay by washing their clothes. Before Hiring her she was fully aware that she will be doing an all round Helper/nanny/maid!. This is extortion.

We trusted her, we helped her during bad times, even gave donation when her father died, celebrated her bdays, allow her to her errands even though it is not her restday, gave her a room, a bed and not just a covered space, treated her right like a family, even let her go home after 1 year from her 2 yrs contract (this means paying for a home leave clearance for additional $300, yes, she didn't asked for it but we were very nice and as a parent too, the feeling of being away from your family is really hard. and let her see her child for approx 2 weeks, when we all went back to the Philippines to celebrate my daughter's bday. free of air tickets and even loaned to us a month of her salary as her pocket money. all this? She was very lucky as my coworkers and mommy colleagues would say. but what we didn't knew, she was backstabbing us.

yuna_chan:  Sugiyanti, WP No.: 0 06034659

When she first joined our family to look after my in-law's granny, we thought she was a very caring and considerate person. She did her household chores very well and she was very fast and efficient. The best part was everybody in the family liked her. She was very conversational and her English was very good for an Indonesian.

It appeared that things were too good to be true. Things started to happen when granny was alone with her during the daytime. 

1. Granny had a bad fall which fractured her hip. She couldn't be operated due to her old age and had to rely on painkiller forever!
2. Granny started getting bruises on her forearm. When asked what happened, she said she don't know. 
3. Doctor diagnosed that granny was malnutrition. If granny refused to take dinner, she will only get to eat the following day during breakfast.
4. Granny fell and had a deep cut on her head when she brought granny out.
5. Granny had a deep cut on her left arm during shower.
5. Granny had another cut on her right arm when the arm got caught in the wheelchair.

A domestic helper who placed a heated iron steamer on the back of a two-year-old boy was on Friday sentenced to 15 months' jail.

The 31-year-old Indonesian maid and victim cannot be named due to a gag order. The incident happened in August this year at a unit in Woodlands Drive. At that time, the child was staying with his aunt as his parents had been admitted to the drug rehabilitation centre.

The victim, his brother and the maid were alone in the flat. Court documents state that the boy was crying and asking the maid for biscuits when she burnt him with the hot iron steamer. She applied ointment on the burn marks and threw away the boy's singlet to get rid of evidence.

The maid faced another charge of causing hurt by using her mobile phone to hit the boy's head, pulling his hair and kicking his waist. This was taken into account during sentencing. In mitigation, the maid told the court her parents, who are in Indonesia, are very old and she has to take care of them. She added that she has to support her two children.

Winter: See what I mean by being lenient to maids in Spore.
If this boy is your son, don't you feel heartache and wanted a harsh punishment for the abuser? This maid had a mobile and used it to hit the boy. This is why most employer doesn't want maid to hold 24/7 mobile - distracted, no heart to work well, ignore day duties and slack.

You have parents and children to support ... so? A good excuse to hurt somebody else's child, get away and receive a light sentence?

18)  Maid framed employer's mother for abuse, 15 Dec 2011, The New Paper

DESPERATE to return home, she spun a tall tale that her employer's mother had abused her.
Filipino maid Ronalyn Espiritu Reintegrado, 31, even had the "injuries" to show for it.  And she maintained her accusation even when told by police that Madam Ng Gek Hong, 69, was not home at that time.
But when she was shown Madam Ng's ez-link card transaction records showing that she had taken a bus and left the flat about an hour before the alleged assault, Reintegrado broke down and admitted that she had lied.
Yesterday, she pleaded guilty and was jailed eight weeks on one count of giving false information to a public servant.

19)  Maid's safety
Too easy to blame the boss? The New Paper, Apr 2012
Each time my husband and I consider hiring a maid, something happens and we take a step back, again.  Just two weeks ago, we discussed if it was more cost-effective to get a maid to cope with the housework and meal preparation for our kids instead of depending on a part-time cleaner and dining out.  Then came the news about two weeks ago that a 23-year-old Indonesian had fallen 30 storeys to her death at Telok Blangah Heights.

That makes six deaths in the first three months this year alone. One is already too many. And it's worrying.  But can Singaporean families live without the extra pair of hands?

Madam Lai Kiat Yee, 58, who sees maids tagging behind their "mums" and "sirs" and feeding the children, sometimes wonders if the parents do any parenting at all.  Or do they leave everything to the maids and become only part-time parents?  Like her own daughter, who has a four-year-old son and a seven-month-old baby.  Madam Lai, who sells claypot noodles at the Beach Road hawker centre, says in Cantonese: "My daughter and her husband have to work shifts and they don't have a choice."

Not that it's an unusual situation for many young families, with both husband and wife having to work.  Mr Chia Bin Hao, 69, who runs a coffee stall in Toa Payoh, is able to empathise because all his five married children have a maid each.  "You don't feel it until we come together for a family meal; that's when we go 'Wah our maids make up half a table (of 10)'," jokes the grandfather to 13 grandchildren aged two months to 17 years. 

With the spotlight on maids again this week, insurance manager Susan Phoon wants to know what she can do to prevent a tragedy.  

Mrs Phoon, 45, has a pair of one-year-old twins and depends on her Filipino maid to take care of them.  Her Indonesian maid takes care of Mrs Phoon's bedridden mother-in-law and does the housework.  "It's virtually impossible to cope on our own, with both my husband (who runs a renovation business) and I working," she says.

This week, the Ministry of Manpower has reminded employers and the public to proactively ensure that their maids are not placed in a position where their safety is jeopardised.  Between 2007 and 2011, 24 maids died after falling from a height while they were cleaning windows or hanging laundry.

There were 45 non-fatal falls in the same period.  Madam Yip Cui Ing, 50, a butcher, feels that it's unfair to put the blame on employers.  She says in Mandarin: "It's always sad to read the news that another maid has died while cleaning windows in high-rise homes.  "But frankly, some of those with maids will tell you how they just don't listen to instructions despite the constant reminders."

Mr Henry Quah, a retiree, 70, agrees. He lives with his son and daughter-in-law and their three children, eight, 10 and 13.  They have an Indonesian maid.  Says Mr Quah: "My daughter-in-law carefully trains our maid and keeps reminding her about safety rules.  "Yet there have been so many occasions that we've caught her standing on a stool while she's cleaning, with the window grilles open."  He adds: "Once, I even caught the maid leaning out of the window. My heart nearly jumped out."  I can understand how Mr Quah feels.

It's easy for those who don't have a maid to pin the blame on employers whenever something goes wrong. Or to be quick to suggest rolling out all kinds of bans or penalties.  While I agree that the onus is on the employers to train their maids properly, what about the employment agents here and back in the maids' home towns?

And the maids must take responsibility for their own safety too.
It's only then that we can avert any potential tragedies.

Read: Safety: Onus is on employers
If there is no safe way to clean window exteriors, then the maids should not be asked to do it.

When hanging laundry: There should not be too much clothing on the pole The heavier clothing should be closer to the maid.  Lighter clothes can be on the far end of the pole MOM will take action against employers who are negligent or who disregard the safety of their maids.

Under the law, employers should ensure that maids perform their duties in a way which does not endanger her life or personal safety and is in accordance with the work practices stipulated by MOM in its training course and safety materials.

Dr John Heng said it's not a good idea for Mr Rozaimi Zainal to catch the maid who fell from the 14th storey. 

Mr Rozaimi was unable to save the maid due to the impact of her fall, there’s no doubt that his attempt was both brave and laudable. Especially since he’s declared in interviews that he’d put his life on the line again should he be placed in a similar situation.  “As a human being, as a fellow person, it is my duty to at least try to save another person’s life.”

This, despite the fact that he has had to go through three operations, shattered all his bones in his left leg, and will be hospitalized for at least the next six weeks.

According to multiple expert opinions, the force of an object falling at a similar velocity is so great that Mr Rozaimi is considered lucky to be alive!  Unfortunately, that’s just one out of the many problems he’ll need to worry about.

Beyond the road to physical recovery, he might possibly also need to relook his employability as a result of his injuries.  His current duties as a cleaning supervisor require him to spend long hours on his feet, doing his rounds for inspections and maintenance, as well as ensuring the estate he oversees is in running order.  While there are no official statements issued as to whether he will sustain any long-term damage to his left leg, there is always the possibility that he doesn’t regain the mobility and nimbleness he used to enjoy in his pre-injury days.

Sadly, this might affect his ability to commit a 100% to his duties at work.  And what about the lost income during his hospitalisation period?  Under the Ministry of Manpower’s sick leave entitlement, Mr Rozaimi is eligible for paid hospitalisation leave up to a maximum of 60 days if he has completed at least six months of service with his employer, Starlike Maintenance Services.

So technically speaking, if all goes well, he will not suffer any loss in income as he is covered by the Employment Act. However, if his hospitalisation period extends beyond what he was originally expecting and over and beyond the 60 days, then his employer has no legal obligation to disburse any salary.

Winter: Media didn't cover news on how that maid fell to her death and why.  It seemed to me, maid tried to commit suicide but accidentally got a superhero involved.  Since there's no bad employer involved and not related to window cleaning accident, there's no media coverage because media/activists has no chance to shade the employers black!