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Who earns lesser than FDWs?
Filipina Maid is employer's bed Mate, Straits Times, 7 Jul 2013
The Filipina had all the right papers - a valid passport and a permit to work in Singapore as a foreign maid. But when enforcement officers from the Ministry of Manpower (MOM) entered the home where she was working, they discovered that she shared a bed with her male employer.
The couple's photographs were around the flat, and their undergarments were hung together to dry in their bedroom. These red flags indicated that she was no maid, MOM officers told The Sunday Times. After four hours of questioning, the man confessed that the Filipina was his live-in girlfriend, not his maid.
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A young boy sustained a deep cut in his mouth when he fell down after his maid apparently kicked him on the back. The incident came to light when the boy's childcare teacher noticed the injury and informed his parents.
A four-year-old boy was abused by a maid inside a lift on July 5. The maid was bringing the boy to school and kicked him from the back and threatened him not to tell his parents and grandma. The boy's childcare teacher found out about the injury and informed the parents.
The boy cried and told his teacher and principal that he was being abused by the maid. The fall left a deep cut on the boy's mouth so the parents decided to make a police report. This maid had been caught smoking and stealing money previously, but the employers decided to give her a chance. However, this chance resulted in a bad injury for their son. The police are still investigating the case.
Winter: Will such maid be put in jail or be canned? Will such maid suffer monetary losses? NO! Such good life and well protected FDW will be sent home at her employer's cost. If it's the opposite, the employer will be jailed and/or fined and her/his name will be published so that self-righteous people have chance to stone him/her... including shaming her/his family, giving them a tougher life. His/her & family's reputation will be tarnished!
MOM created all theses problems and loopholes. Till now, MOM didn't feel they are doing anything wrong so no solution offered, policies remained so no tweaking done. Till now, many still don't believe FDWs are the most fortunate human beings working in Spore. All live-in costs (daily meal, accommodation, insurance, transport, etc) were paid by employers, received take home pay of at least S$400 per month which is so much higher than any of our low income workers. Our low income citizens worked harder than the maids, some worked under the hot sun, some had to soak their hands in soapy water for almost the whole day, some are washing smelly toilets .... but govt didn't want to help them using more effective ways. Govt did a lot of lip service but how many eventually had a take home pay of S$400 per month? Ask our govt to show you the real fact and stop hiding the truth. I was once a low income household so I know to have S$200 per month (after deducting all the BASIC live-in costs, NO insurance/car/branded stuff etc purchased because unaffordable) is a dream!
There are bad employers, I didn't deny this but I am more inclined to believe there are more bad maids than bad employers. Just because self righteous people & media liked to bad mouth or publicize bad employers, tend to feel maids looked more like victims, it doesn't mean there are more bad employers in Spore. It is the same theory why MOM acted on 10 maids who fell from high floor, doing window cleaning or bamboo laundry. HDB flats were built in Spore for more than 30 years, how many locals fell doing cleaning or laundry? Nobody cares. The ratio of locals who fell are definitely higher but did our govt/HDB care? See this truth yourself, foreigners' lives and well-being are more important than citizens' lives.
The definition of bad maid refers to any FDW who cannot deliver a proper FDW job (based on interview or job description). Gave many chances and Counseling still didn't work so Employer has no choice but to part with her/his money and find replacement for that bad maid. A bad maid is a person who is lazy, chit-chat on her mobile & didn't do her daily chores/duties, stubborn, behaved too princess (pampered), uncooperative, poor attitude, drama queen, abusive/bullied person in her care, dishonest, steals, slept with man/men, violated her work permit conditions, moonlighted, indecent (doesn't wear bra or underwear, wore low cut/revealing clothes to seduce her male employer), untrainable (do not listen to work instructions and carry out duties as per employer's training), unhygienic, played forgetful games, doesn't remember safety rules (eg jaywalking), bad temper, rude/impolite, showed no basic respect to her employer(s), having mental problem, runaway, bad mouthing her employer(s) and/or irresponsible.
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In Spore, FDW's Work Permit number will be the same as long as she's the same person, didn't change name or use fake passport.
ROSELYN DELA CRUZ LUY. Phil, Work Permit: 025442970
JESSICA ALAURIN PANGILINAN. Phil, Work Permit: 026396379
Such maids do not deserve sympathy or second chance because they do not respect themselves. Made themselves looked so dirty and unsuitable for employment. No integrity or dignity. If maids felt what they did were right, employers should feel free (no need to feel guilty) to tel their husbands/parents in source countries to inform them their beloved wives/sisters/daughters have been repatriated home due to them sleeping around or ogling men. Give them a warm welome home!
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Winter - how come this maid can run away for so long? What happened to her unfortunate employer? Was the $5000 security bond eaten by our hungry MOM? Obviously not employer's fault, employer can't control a maid's mind so when he/she hired a bad maid, who stepped in to help?
Winter - some people can eventually go maidless, wish I can too!
To train my girl to be independant and know how to take care of herself .... tough but we're trying to train her on ADL! If cheap therapies are offered regularly or special needs schools are meant to provide continuous learning, maybe 5 -10 years later I can see my girl feeding herself with a spoon or sign to me that she needs to go toilet, point to me which part of her body is in pain, know how to use toilet and shower facilities, can dress & clean herself ....
There are things that your maid did to you which made you realised you can actually manage life without a live-in maid. Life can be rosier without FDW. You, a normal family definitely have a choice compared to me.
Getting on without a maid, The Straits Times, Apr 2013
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For those employers who have treated their FDWs too well, in the extend of pampering them in the name of upholding human rights or simply to show others your wealth, I hope below is YOUR maid! This will make you wake up, being nice will not be appreciated by FDWs. Don’t spoil the FDW and make commoner's lives difficult! Don’t make FDWs think they are not required to deliver a proper FDW’s jobscope and acts such as below, is how other employers should allow maids to do.
Her family's financial problems forced her to come to Singapore, leaving behind her child.
Both migrant workers met just a month after she started work here in August last year. It was almost a near-daily routine for Ruliyawati to go to the minimart for newspapers or canned food for her employers while her man and his friends would buy groceries or newspapers from the minimart in the evening.
They can be seen chatting at the void deck of Block 686B, or having a heated argument. The couple often quarreled at the void deck and in secluded stairwells at the block, and these tiffs revolved around Ruliyawati's family.
But a stormy relationship ended for good when the Bangladeshi cleaner placed the Indonesian maid's body in one of eight HDB rooftop water tanks.
2) Winter: I have copied below.
Where I got these? Did I make these up?
So what you found out where I've copied from and these are the truth, will this kind of maids frightened you, make you think thrice before treating them too well, offer them more leeway to be bad or stop attacking Employers? In my blog, there are many other annoying and irresponsible things that Domestic Helpers did. Some were reported in the news but did the news and comments awake your real social senses?
5) Source: Stomp
But there was once, she was requested not to take or to postpone her off day, as it was the first day of Hari Raya. Better for her celebrating the festival with the family and usually, she will receive packets of monies from relatives.
But the maid, in her 30s, with children back home, insisted as she had planned a picnic at Sentosa. If all her friends can have their off days, why not her?
But all her friends were working for Chinese families.
7) A just arrived maid is given her off day in her first week of work. She goes out looking for friends... to do fishing too!
Big groups of migrant workers, men and women gathering at shopping centres on weekends, the government must really think of the social impact and its consequences.
Just walk down Peninsula Plaza in North Bridge Road, a favourite spot for Myanmar, Lucky Plaza in Orchard Road for Filipinos, the Little Thailand Golden Mile Complex at Beach Road, Katong Shopping Centre at Mountbatten Road for Chinese national and City Plaza at Geylang.
All these foreign workers just know where is the best spot to spend in Singapore beside working place. They are new in Spore, yet they know.
The seeing is believing, been there, seen up close of not all maids in Singapore are facing overwork or ill-treatment as what's printed in papers.
She knew now, being housemaids in Singapore is not about working 24/7. She knew now, maids have had their own lifestyle to maintain. She get to know of married maids having relationship with Bangladeshi workers.
She get to know maids from her own country having affairs with multiple partners who could support them, providing them cash, topping-up their phonecards...
Some of you might already know that I have been dealing with maid woes for a long, long time. In a nutshell, my domestic helper annoying, defiant, dirty (like really unhygienic), incredibly lazy, a big liar to say the least.. since she's been employed, shit always goes missing around the house (jewelry, money, even underwear)... Speaking of underwear, she was cleaning the floor one day and bended over wearing a low-cut pants so I accidentally saw that she was wearing MY La Senza underwear on her butt. Underwear thief!!!!!!! And jewelry? Well my mum has had a few expensive branded bags go missing for starters, and the Chanel necklace that Sam gave me for our anniversary also magically disappeared. That pissed me off a lot. It's not even about the money. What I'm angry about is that the item has so much sentimental value, and yet it was just taken away from me like that, probably now sitting in some pawn shop some where. To think that I lived with the thief for months and months after that infuriates me. I've barely touched the tip of the iceberg. I wonder why I let myself go through this torment.
So let me just give you a brief introduction about my maid.
My domestic helper, let's call her Y*... Was employed 1 year plus ago, before Christmas time. When she first arrived, I thought she was lovely. I honestly did. I thought she was sweet, polite, and better than my previous few maids. I believe I even tweeted nice things about her when she first arrived. Unfortunately for us, that was only at the start, her attitude changed completely after a few months.
Now, they say most maids are only nasty towards their employers if you aren't nice to them. Like if you overwork them, don't feed them nice enough food or are rude to them, they will be very stubborn and rebellious. I'd like to think I have been nice to Y* from the start. Definitely not so much towards the end, I'll have to admit,... but at the start, yes. Since her arrival was close to Christmas time, I invited her to hang up X'mas decorations with Sam & I. We hung ornaments on the X'mas tree together, and I respected her enough to change the placements of the way I hung my ornaments because she said it wasn't nice. Now, this probably means absolutely nothing to a person reading this statement, but I believed that by respecting her opinion however insignificant it may seem, listening to what she has to say and inviting her to take part in family-orientated activities will make her feel less like a stranger and hopefully more like family. In return, I wanted her to do her work properly and be nice to my family & I. I didn't want to live with a stranger, I had hoped to live with a maid I actually liked.
I remember it was New Year's Eve in 2010 and I didn't want her to spend it counting down all alone at home (we were all going out) so I insisted on taking her along with us to view the fireworks at Marina Bay Sands. My family members were flabbergasted at why I'd want to take the maid out on New Year's Eve but when I saw the smile on her face as she gazed up into the night sky in awe of the fireworks, I thought to myself, "it's worth it." Worth the taunting and eyeball rolling I had to endure from my family. Since I was a little girl, I've had many many different maids, more than I can count on my fingers. I've had great, good, bad and horrible. I certainly never thought this one would go so wrong.
Don't ask me when, how, or why... But along the way, after a couple months, Y* just respected us less & less. The way she talked to us was less polite, and she tried less often to please. Eventually she just became downright bloody fucking annoying, for example, asking question every single question twice (on purpose).
Case Study 1:
Me: "Can you pour me a cup of orange juice please?"
Y*: "With ice, or without?"
Me: "No ice."
Y*: "Ice ah??"
Case Study 2:
Me: "Hey, we are going to make dinner, chop some garlic."
Y*: "Onions also?"
Me: "No, just chop garlic will do."
Y*: "So garlic only ah??? You don't want onions ah???"
OMFG!! I know it sound so insignificant but try living with somebody so retarded that they ask you EVERY question twice, on purpose. To have to repeat yourself over and over is no fun. I've already told her, "Don't ask me questions twice! Just listen when I tell you the first time" but she doesn't care. At first I thought she was just being meticulous, like she wanted to make sure she doesn't do the wrong thing… which is fair enough, because a careful & annoying maid is better than a careless maid who could care less.
But after asking if I'd like some onions with my garlic and me saying no, she will STILL chop some motherfucking onions!!!!!!!!! I SAID NO RIGHT. Or, worse, she will chop only onions, no garlic like I had originally asked for. I'm pretty sure she's not deaf, she hears me fine, but chooses to go against me just for the heck of it. Wtf is wrong with people like that? Take note that I am not talking about individual, unique or isolated incidents. She does way more annoying things everyday but if I told you all the examples this post would 20k words long.
Being annoying, is something difficult to swallow, but I can still handle. You don't call the police on someone for being annoying. Besides being annoying, another star quality about her is also being lazy.
For people who have had enough maids, might have noticed that a lot of them will get quite lazy sooner or later (which I sort of understand) the real question is - to what extent?
Case Study 3:
Me: "Hey, can you cling wrap this cake (a cake fresh out of the oven) for me? I'm rushing to go out now and will not get back till late at night and I will need to decorate it later."
Y*: "Ok! Bye!"
Me: *goes out..... comes home 5 hours later, and sees the cake on the table...*
The cake was PATHETICALLY cling wrapped.. in fact I wouldn't even call it being cling wrapped. There's a piece of flimsy cling wrap carelessly placed on the top (barely enough to stretch over to the sides) and the sides and underneath are completely exposed. That's like asking a person to put the cake in a box, but they put a piece of cardboard on the top of the cake instead.
I was so angry because the fresh out of the oven cake that was still moist & fluffy is now hard and crusty and dry because it's been exposed to the air conditioned room for so long and all the moisture is all sucked out of it. Now, it needs to be baked again, and I'm running very short on time because the customer is coming to collect it soon, and if I can't finish it on time, I'm screwed. So I have 2 choices, give the customer a dry and crusty cake or risk not finishing on time and making the customer angry. I chose the latter, thankfully the customer arrived late as well.
All of this could've been prevented if she could cling wrap it properly, but no!!! She just can't. She has really taught me the strict lesson of "If you want something done, do it yourself" because she just can't seem to get anything right. Now you can argue and say "why didn't you cling wrap it yourself?" That's as good as saying, "why don't you do the housework yourself?" I'm paying the maid a monthly salary and providing her food & accommodation, do I not have the right to ask her to cling wrap something for me? Sigh. Little did I know she can't even complete a simple task like that. She knows perfectly well how important it is to keep the cakes cling wrapped (we do it all the time and show it to her) but she just cannot be bothered. When I confronted her about the poorly cling wrapped cake, she sulks, then looks at me and go, "I wrap! I wrap already!!! What is this plastic on the cake if I never wrap?"
Laziness aside, sometimes I think she's pure evil, because NOBODY could be this evil.
I was going to cook one day, when I saw that a whole lot of ants had gotten into my salt/sugar cooking jar, as it wasn't properly sealed. I didn't reprimand her for not storing the kitchen supplies properly (could've been prevented if it was shut tight, but I thought, ah heck honest mistake) so I handed the jar to her and said, "Hey, clean this, there's ants all over it and even crawling around INSIDE it, look!" and she took it off my hands. I forget about the jar, and didn't check to see if she did clean it or not.
A few hours later, I return to the kitchen to cook a meal. So here I am, fussing over my frying pan, cooking up a storm... she stands beside me, and then I ask, "Hey, can you pass me some sugar?" and she hands me the very same salt/sugar jar I gave her to wash before, still full of sugar/salt, but without the ants. I noticed that the amount was exactly the same as before, except this time, the jar wasn't filled with ants. It didn't necessarily look any cleaner.
Case Study 4:
I raise an eyebrow, and questioned, "Did you clean this?"
Y*: "Yess!!! Yes I did!! *defiant tone*"
Me: "I'M ASKING YOU. *raises voice* Did you clean this jar? Did you pour out all the salt / sugar, wash it with soap and water to get rid of the ants, or did you just clean the outside and scoop out the parts that had ants in it? HOW CAN YOU DO THIS?!?!?"
Y*: "I clean what..... You never say to throw away.. *sulks even more with a pouty face*" (hate her sulky face, she never apologizes, just sulks)
Unconvinced? (sorry I just need to rant some more ok)
Case Study 5:
Me: "Hey, defrost the minced pork in the fridge please, I'm going to cook dinner."
I return to the kitchen half an hour later, ready to cook.
Me: "Minced pork defrosted already?"
Y* "Ya, ya... *hands me a bowl full of meat*
I hastily marinate the meat, as my grandmother is hungry and I'm making her dinner. She cannot eat too late because she will have gastric or problems digesting her food so I need to hurry up. I heat up my frying pan. I start to cook the "pork". As it is cooking, I get a whiff the aroma, and frown. Hmm... something's not right. This doesn't smell like pork. What is this???
Me: "Is this pork??? Why does it smell and look like beef?" (you can only tell when it's being cooked otherwise looks the same.. just minced)
Y*: "You said beef what. *rolls eyes*"
Me: "WHAT THE FUCK? (I literally said this out loud lol) I said minced pork!! I said pork, and you said ok! Why you didn't tell me it was beef, only until after I fry it, then you say it's beef?!"
Y*: "I hear you say beef. There is n-no.. no pork in the fridge ok." I can tell she is lying, because she's flustered and stuttering. She always stutters when she lies.
By this time my blood is boiling. I stomp over to the fridge, open the freezer compartment, and the first thing that I see is a packet of minced pork that has a label that says "minced pork - 250g" and a stupid damn cartoon flying PIG plastered on the packet staring back at me.
Me: *waving the packet of minced pork around in the air like a mad woman* "WHAT IS THIS??? Pork right?"
She replies, "Ya, but I didn't see it, really! Just now it wasn't there. If I see, I give it to you! Really!!!"
I'll tell you why I am so angry. It is not because I don't get to eat minced pork, but minced beef instead. My problem is, the beef packet was actually UNDERNEATH the pork packet, so she must have took a look at the pork, then realized there was beef and gave that to me instead, hoping I will not notice.. it does look the same, after all. I know she wouldn't know this, but it doesn't taste the same.. at ALL. Why would she do that? She's Muslim, she can't eat pork. If I cook beef, at least she can eat it. That is how selfish she is. She is super lazy, and the only thing she cooks for herself is maggi mee or fried rice, she never cooks even when I give her full permission to use my groceries to feed herself.
Besides her selfishness, I was so upset because my GRANDMOTHER cannot eat beef due to religious beliefs as well. It so happened I was making one of her favorite dishes for her dinner, vegetables with minced pork, but now she doesn't get to eat that despite hungrily waiting for me. I have to leave her disappointed. I've already mixed the vegetables in with the beef, and to defrost a brand new packet of frozen minced pork would take too long. I had also intended to save the minced beef to make hamburgers for Sam the next day. Now everybody loses. I can confidently say it was no honest mistake by my maid. I know her inside out by now, all her evil tactics and scheming. I can tell when she's lying, and when she's not. So easy to read. Maybe after reading a few of these examples, out of the hundreds I've experienced, some of you may understand why I dislike her so much.
I have tried being nicer to her, in hopes that she will mend her ways, for example when my mother was overseas and couldn't be around to give Y* her monthly salary on time, I offered to pay her out of my own pocket in advance so that she may enjoy her upcoming day off (she gets once or twice a month)
Instead of being grateful, she was meant to make breakfast for my grandmother in the morning - she didn't, just rushed out of the house. Was meant to be home by 6:30pm, came home at 7 plus instead. LATE + didn't do her job, and didn't even say sorry for being late or thank you for helping me advance my pay. What kind of ingrate is she, you tell me??? How to be nice to somebody like this?
Eventually, I gave up hope on her, and realized some people are just #%@%#@ born this way. YOU CANNOT FIX OR HELP THEM. Your kind actions will only be backfired.
I'll give you one final case study, that happened yesterday... leading to the climax of this situation.
Case Study 6:
Yesterday, my friend N came over to the house to hang out. At about 3:30pm, we decided to go out for lunch, and as I was getting changed, N went downstairs to get his car out of the carpark and waited for me at the lobby. I looked in my handbag. There was $280 in cash. Not wanting to bring so much cash out, I took $10 and my card, then left the house. So there was $270 left in my bag.
I went downstairs and got into N's car. I suddenly realize I'd left something else in my handbag that I forgot to bring down. I ring the maid Y*, to bring down my handbag for me. Knowing she has a history of stealing stuff, I was kind of worried she might take my money again. BUT, I told myself, if she does, I will call the police this time. I have been so damn tolerant and forgiving towards her. I wouldn't ask her to bring down my handbag if I didn't need something in it - surely she knows this and is smart enough to refrain from stealing this time? If she steals money that I left on the table and totally forgot about, I CAN understand her reasoning. But this time, it's something I'm completely aware of, I use that handbag everyday, and I was requesting for it's presence. Surely she is not that daring.
She came down with my handbag after 5 whole minutes. She hands it to me. She hastily goes back up. I start to count my money.
$210 left. WHAT!
*counts again, and again, and again.... looks at N with a bewildered look*
A fifty dollar note, and a ten dollar note, a total amounting to $60 went missing.
No, this can't be. No, that bitch had better not touch my money. I ran out of N's car, and went upstairs to my house. I was totally overcome with anger, because this time, I'M SO SURE.
Other times when I lose my money, or when I lose my clothes / necklaces, I can't remember the exact details, like the last time I'd seen it or where I'd placed my purse... and I dare not make a police report against her because I NEED to be really sure before doing something so drastic. This time, I was really sure. It was just minutes ago that I was upstairs in my room counting my money. There was no one else in the house except my old grandmother and brother who was still sleeping. They do not steal. Y* does.
Overcome with anger, I literally ran all the way from the car to the corridor to my house. I banged on the door, and when she opened the door, she looked at me. She knew. She knew that I knew what she did. I can tell by the look of fear in her eyes. She probably saw the fire in mine.
I said in a stern tone, "I know what you did. Give me back my money NOW, or I will call the police. If you just admit your mistake and give me the money, I will forgive you. But if you don't, I'll call the police right now."
Y*: "Money? I never take your money!!! I SWEAR!!!"
She then starts to shout back.... and then swears more... then challenges me. "OK LA, YOU CALL THE POLICE! I NOT SCARED, I NEVER DO ANYTHING WRONG."
I didn't think I'd do it myself, but I picked up the phone and dialled 999. An operator answers. I ask, "what happens if I suspect my maid has stolen money? can I ask for assistance?" ....Within 15 minutes, police officers were ringing my door bell.
And the rest was history. I'm not sure if it's legal for me to reveal exactly what happened between the police, Y* and I, but after 3 hours+ of investigation, she was brought away in handcuffs in a police car. She never once appeared to be remorseful, or apologetic. She was so cocky.
So cocky, in fact, that she challenged the police: "Why don't you search and question N as well? He was also in the house!" Because N was already downstairs by the time I last checked my money, you evil witch!!! How dare you try and get my friend into trouble to save your sorry ass?!?.... At first, all I felt was anger, then after I calmed down, what I felt was sadness. I felt really sad for her when I saw them flipping through her stuff and questioning her and then finally handcuffing her before my very eyes. That moment was completely shocking to me. I knew that criminals deserve to be handcuffed and be put away, especially when they take me for a sucker AGAIN AND AGAIN, but I still felt awful inside. I do hate her in so many ways and have actually WISHED for this very moment many times before, but to see it happen.... also didn't feel right. I wish someone else had made the police report instead, I wish someone else had their things stolen, so that I wouldn't have to be the one feeling all the guilt, but I could still see justice being served. I guess in this way, I'm also quite naive and stupid. I'd like to think I'm not a cold-hearted person. I don't like to see people in misery, and she was in handcuffs right then.
I felt so crippled with guilt at night that I could barely sleep. Tossed and turned all of last night. I couldn't decide if my conscience or sense of righteousness has gotten the better of me. Sure, she's been making my life a living hell since the first few months she's lived here, and probably deserves to rot away in jail for all that she's done... but when all is said and done, she still has lived in the same house as my family and I for over a year. As much as I dislike her, there's some parts of her that I do not totally hate.
Think of it as living with a pet that is really naughty and made your life more difficult than enjoyable.
You pay for the damn thing, hoping it will be a good addition to your life. It's not exactly necessary, but you figured the benefits it is meant to bring would be worth it rather than living on your own. At the start, your little puppy is fluffy and cute. But after a few months, it's less cute, it grows up and is less intimidated by you, then starts to pee and shit everywhere. It rips up your clothes and furniture. You try to be nicer to it, hoping it will love you in return, but all it does is be a complete brat. It's uncontrollable. You start to question your decision of ever bringing it home in the first place and ask god what have you ever done to deserve this sort of company when all you ever wanted was someone (something) nice to live with. Eventually, you give up hope, as no amount of training or disciplining worked, and you resign to your fate. One day, you find it chewing up your favorite expensive dress. Horrified, you tried to give it a second chance but it bit you as you tried to tear it away from the dress. You get so effin' angry in the heat of the moment, you decide to give it away immediately.
After all the grief your dog from hell provided you, would you still feel sad when it's time to let go? Yes, you would. A tinge of guilt, like "perhaps I wasn't a good enough owner".. If you had a heart. Because no matter what, time spent together still creates a bond, no matter how faint. (Btw I am in no way saying she's a dog, just using the pet theory as an example for people who don't have maids and don't know what this would feel like)
I've said a lot of horrible things about her. But there are a few times she's done nice things for me. Give credit where credit is due. She's not a completely evil person. Yes, horrid and evil sometimes, but not to the core, not 100%. She has her moments. Like when she makes dessert and food without us asking her to then excitedly offering it to us, hoping for our approval. Like when she helps me out with my cake work, I really appreciate that. Like when she tries to be patient with my grandmother.. not a lot of people can handle the elderly well. She has made me laugh, and tried cheering me up some times when I have fights with Sam. I will not forget those times. So, I feel sorry for that part of Y*. The small nice part I'd like to believe exists somewhere inside her, that was much more evident the first week she came to live with this family. It may have decayed during the past year, but hopefully it's not wiped out. When a serial murderer gets caught and thrown in jail, everyone rejoices. But she's not a serial murderer. Yes, she stole my money, clothes, underwear, and did so many bad things.... but I still wasn't sure if I wanted to see her in jail. That would really suck for her. I don't want anything on my conscience.
After they took her away, I had a lot of time to reflect upon my actions and hers.
Long story short, I decided not to pursue the matter anymore, and after she spent a night being locked up and interrogated, I bailed her out today. Immediately, I bought her a ticket home. Barely a few hours ago, her agent took her, and left. She's probably in
I replied, "You don't have to say anything any more. Even if you didn't steal my money this time, you dare say you've never EVER stolen my money before? All the things you have done, you know deep down in your heart, and I do too. That's enough. I hope you're nicer to people you meet next time. Be a good person." She smiled at me. I can't remember if I managed a smile back. For the first time, she actually looked happy. She wasn't scowling, or sulking like she does every single day for the past year... Somehow I also felt happy for her, and for myself, that both our miseries were coming to an end. I don't think she liked working for us either. We both deserve better than this.
I am no longer angry. I just have so much sorrow. And I'm confused, because what was rage and anger then guilt, now turned straight into pity and empathy. I can barely copy with all these emotions..... I tried to put myself in her shoes. I don't know what it's like to be poor. I have known envy, but never the spiteful envy or the heavy desperation enough to drive me to steal from other people. Perhaps she sees all the nice things I have, and thinks I don't deserve to be leading a better life than her. And in some ways, I guess I don't. Where you're born and which family you're born into is luck of the draw, life's sick lottery. The world is not fair. I was born into an easier life, and I don't have to work in another country to support my family back home. This is a painful reminder I sometimes forget. I'm sure she has her own set of problems to deal with that causes her to behave the way she does.
As she was leaving my house for the final time, she told all of us, "I'm really sorry if I had done anything wrong to you guys. Thank you for having me here." She even held my hand as she said it. It actually meant a lot to me that she said that. At least I knew she wasn't angry at me for calling the police on her, and that, at the end of the day... she can leave on a relatively good note. I don't want anyone hating me. I looked at her luggage and the clothes she was wearing and the bag she was carrying and realized that 90% of her belongings were in good condition, and they were clothes that I had given her. They were not the scraps she had worn when she first entered our home. A lot of the clothes I have given her are still brand new and unworn when she first received them. Despite knowing that she's stolen from me before (underwear and money) I still gave her nice clothes. Because I knew I was not unkind to her and did quite the best that I could, that made me feel a lot better. I never starved her, I often cooked for her, I never deprived her of using her mobile phone, watching TV, going out on off days... I think I've been very reasonable. That's good enough for me. I assure you, I don't treat my maids horribly. Most of them have a much better life living in our household than in others. I treat them like proper human beings, not like slaves as some people do.
She waved to me, smiling, as the car drove away.....And that was the end of a chapter in our lives. I came back up to my room, thought about things for awhile.. and burst into tears. I'm not sure why I'm so emotional. I wish all this never happened, to be honest. It's a lot to handle. I think it's also to do with the fact that I'm having my period, and it was so difficult going through this alone when my mother and Sam wasn't in Singapore with me. I have to take care of my grandmother and my brother, I'm like in charge of the house and I have huge responsibilities on my shoulder. Now that everything is settled, I'm so relieved, but still very affected by what has happened. If I didn't have N to go through this with me, I don't know what I would've done.
I hope I did the right thing. We're going to be without a maid for awhile, but heck, people have lived this way for thousands of years, why can't we?!?!?! I'll be less spoilt this way, right? Whatever. We'll get by.
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What are the things we cannot assume that our maid knows?
Winter: Even if she knows, she doesn't feel it is necessary to be careful, think not that serious or felt it is her duty to help you keep your precious child or house safe. It seems like prevention, be safe is not something registered in a FDW's brain. If such info has been instilled by the training centres, there won't be accident of maids falling down from HDB windows.
Spore FDW's employer has been forced by MOM to babysit our adult FDW, keep her safe ... this theory is really wrong. Aren't we suppose to treat FDWs like a sensible working adults, not big babies requiring constant supervision? MOM thought we don't need to work, WE-employers are very free, can stay home to be eagles. If I can stay home, I don't need to employ a FDW to waste my money, effort and time.
They do not know that they are not supposed to use one bucket of water to mop the whole house as they do not know the real purpose of mopping the floor. Most of them mop the floor because you want them to mop but they do not know it is because the floor must be clean.
They do not know the sequence of tidying and cleaning. They should first wipe the painting/picture, clock, then the tables & chairs, paintings… etc before they start to sweep the floor.
They do not know that they should switch off the fan before they sweep the floor or else the dust will fly all over the house.
They do not know that when there is a cover on the cup, the cover also has to be washed together with the cup. Most of them only wash the cup and simply placing the cover back into the cupboard. The next time, when they serve you the drink, the un-washed cover will be used to cover your cup.
They do not know that when they clean the house, if they spot an unusual insect in the house, like a termite, they should inform you.
They do not know how to hand wash your clothes. Back home, my maid used a stick to hit on the clothes. If you don’t have a stick for her to use, she will not know how to hand wash your clothes. Please ask her to demonstrate to you first before you let her do it using her method.
They do not know when tidying the garden, they should wear a glove to protect themselves.
They do not know how to use the dish washing sponge correctly and which type of sponge to clean what type of utensil. Usually your non-stick rice cooker will lose its non-stick ability after they wash it.
33 months jail for maid who abused child, Mar 26, 2011, Today
A 17-year-old Indonesian maid has been sentenced to 33 months' jail for abusing her ex-employer's daughter who was then only a year old.
The maid is not named to protect the girl's identity. The maid, who ill-treated the toddler in a Bedok Reservoir Road flat in November and December 2009, pleaded guilty to eight of 19 child abuse charges.
Within a space of just five days, the teenager kicked the girl and slapped her several times. She also dragged the child by the hand across the living room before dropping her onto a mattress.
The abuse caused the girl to suffer injuries, including bruises to her legs. On Friday, the court was shown video clips of the maid committing the offence.
Deputy Public Prosecutor Wong Woon Kwong said that the girl's parents had installed several closed-circuit cameras inside their flat without the maid's knowledge. That is because the toddler's grandmother had complained that the maid was lazy and had hit the girl even though she was told not to do so.
The girl's parents viewed the CCTV footage captured on December 6 and were shocked to learn of their daughter's ordeal.
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Stop maid sexpolitation (source)
It’s very disturbing to see them frolicking, sensuous, behaving intimate in public. At the East Coast Park every Sunday, Banglas and maids pitch tents as their love nests for their immoral activities, more so when it rains. The parks and beaches are a public recreational area and mostly for family outings. We look towards Sunday being a leisurely day, but are faced with this disgusting sight. The embarrassing sight no doubt leaves an inedible mark on the family and our children.
A family friend swear that he will never again visit Sentosa on Sunday, and most Spore families avoid going to such parks public places again. No sensible minded Singaporean will approve of such obnoxious behavior. It’s becoming too common an unsightly on weekends, loath by S’poreans. Sunday is no more a S’porean leisurely day, besides being an eyesore they are squeezing S’porean of recreational space.
Most of these country girls, have never seen a foreigner before, let alone a smooth talking Bangla. These lonely innocent rural bumpkin, ever smiling, pleasing, obliging maids are too easy picking for sex starved Bangla/Indian workers. These maids are someone’s daughter, mum or a wife in their country. While it takes two to tango, these maids being away from their country, from their parents or husband preying eyes, let their hair down while working in Singapore. It just takes time when the maid will succumb to coaxing and when hooked, the wolves desires are fulfilled and weekly servicing, f.o.c. Some affairs lasted for years, its also quite common for a Bangla/Indian to have multiple maids.
The maids sinister liaisons don’t just end on the weekend, there are numerous cases where the maids invite their Bangla lovers to their employers home, and satisfy their lust on the bosses bed. A woman employer recently tells me of her distaste and anger. She threw out the whole bed set and got a new one. This is trespassing. In this case, maid agencies must inform the police, the law must apprehend them.
There must be guidelines about spending their off days, rules and regulations not to abuse and misbehave. There’s no free will of how they spend their off days, they must behave responsible. They are here to work, they got a job and now a weekly off day. They can’t have it all here, not in Singapore.
If the govt managed to clean our Geylang areas of China woman and save Spore families, then monitoring and controlling these indecent behavior will be not much of a problem. The maids must be aware not to offer their bodies for a packet of rice, hand phone top-up or less. They come here to work for a decent income, not be companions
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Maid caught having sex with 12-year-old Boy in HDB flat, 12 May 2010, Straits Times
Barely five months after she began working for the family, a domestic worker allegedly had sex with her employer’s 11-year-old son.
An Indonesian maid working in Singapore was hauled to court for havingsex with her employer's 12-year-old son.
The 27-year-old is alleged to have caused the boy - with his consent - to engage in oral sex at the HDB unit in the east on Dec 25 last year. She is also accused of causing the boy to have sex with her sometime at end-June and mid-December last year.
The fourth charge under the Children and Young Persons Act states that she committed an obscene act with a child by engaging in sex and oral sex with him between end-June and Dec 25.
The court has ordered the name of the victim to be withheld or anything that will lead to his identification. If convicted of the sexual penetration of a minor under 16, she can be jailed for up to 10 years and fined on each charge.
The maximum penalty is a fine of up to S$5,000 and/or a jail term of up to two years. The short and bespectacled domestic worker was offered bail of S$20,000.
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The film showed the maid and the baby both naked as she sat on top of him, ignoring his cries because of pain.
She was arrested in the capital.
The prosecutor accused the maid of raping the baby and endangering his life. When she was shown the film, she confessed to her crime. Quoted by the semi-official daily Alittihad, a prosecution source said the maid faces up to 15 years in jail in line with the federal law meting out such punishment against crimes involving rape of people under 14 years.
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Water tank maid, Jul 2012
168 households had their drinking water supply affected by the corpse of Indonesian maid, Ruliyawati, according to the Chinese newspaper, Lianhe Wanbao. The case has been classified as murder by the police. The Straits Times reported that a Bangladeshi man had been arrested in connection with the case.
The victim and the Bangladeshi man were believed to have been in an intimate relationship. He was seen limping and had cuts on his legs when he was led away by the police at 10.40am.
The Straits Times reported that Bangladeshi Md Repon Mostafa, 29, was originally accused of causing the death of Indonesian maid Ms Ruliyawati, 30 at the rooftop of Block 686B Woodlands Drive 73 on May 16.
The story made headlines last year after the dead body of an Indonesian maid was discovered on May 16 inside the rooftop water tank of Block 686B, Woodlands Street 73.
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Copied this from a filipino domestic helper's employer. Having these examples do not mean only filipinos can be house thieves or be bad domestic helpers.
I can only read English so if any Indonesian post in Bahasa, Indian or a Myanmese FDW writer, there's no way I can understand unless somebody translates and kind enough to post it in my blog, under 'comment'. Just take it that all humans will err, be it Indonesian, Filipino, Australian or Sporean .... nobody is perfect! You can be a better employee. The choice is yours! Nobody can feed you cow dung if you clearly said no. If you really needed a decent job (not act like spolit brat/princess), you'll change voluntarily and accept the terms dished out to you by your prospective employers. If you are a contented and sensible person, do your tasks as per job requirements, have not forgotten what you were getting in your own country, you are the ideal worker any employer would want to employ and treat you nicely for being so helpful and cooperative.
I hate it when things like this happen. She was a nice girl with a 1y/o daughter whom I was very fond of. However, money started vanishing. At first I wasn't sure, then it was clear something was wrong. I have several people working for me, so I didn't want to accuse the wrong person. I set 30p out on the credenza by the door one night to give one of the guys in the morning to go buy a bottle of water. The next morning it was gone.
Of course, no one knew what happened to it. I was fairly sure it was the maid, but I didn't want to accuse her without some kind of proof. That night, I called everyone together and told them even though it was only 30p, a theft was a theft and I was not happy. I went on to say if the money didn't come back by morning, there were going to be serious consequences, but I didn't spell out what they might be.
The next morning, I'm sitting at my desk doing my normal Internet thing, when the maid comes in and starts cleaning the desk. She never does this, because I don't like my work space messed with, so I was suspicious. She picked up my eye glass cleaning towel and out dropped my 30p! "Look at that!" she says. "You had your money all the time, you just didn't look in the right place!" Said with a gloating look on her face.
Good theory to be sure, except I'd just used the cloth earlier that morning to clean my glasses! So, I asked her why she felt it was ok to take my money? She denied taking it and stuck with the, "it was in the towel" story. She left the room and my GF said she was very happy, singing while she worked.
Then GF tells me that she was missing 1,000p from her purse a few weeks ago. She wasn't sure it was taken, but it looked like maybe someone had disturbed her purse. She didn't tell me earlier because she really liked the maid and felt sorry for her. Later that morning, one of the guys comes up to me and says you know I borrowed 500p from her a few weeks ago, but I paid her back with interest. Ok, but where did she get the 500p it was no where near pay day? Another guy told me he'd borrowed 200p from her about the same time, but he too had paid it back.
So I confronted her about this and of course she denied everything, but the more I pressed her, the more she was looking down, refusing to look at me and then her story started to change, so at that point I was certain she was the one. So, I told her today at 1PM she had to be packed and out of here by 4PM. She was in denial at first, then refused to leave, then went back into denial. Finally I had to raise my voice and tell her she was leaving at 4PM and if that meant I had to take her clothes out and dump them outside the gate, so be it.
She finally realized I was serious, packed her bags and I called a tryke for her and gave her the salary she was owed. That irked me to no end, because she stole more than that, but I know that under the law I still owed her wages even if she was a thief.
What I found interesting is that after she realized she couldn't lie her way out of the problem she packed her things and left, but not once apologized to me, or asked me to forgive her. Is that the Filipino way, or just her?
Another fact of life about helpers is that you can never find one that’s perfect. I doubt you can tell others you're the perfect employee other companies dying to hire. So they don’t exist. Maybe they work hard but they are not honest. Or they are honest but they don’t work hard. Or they are honest and work hard but are unpleasant and always have a scowl on their face. Or maybe they are honest and work hard and are pleasant but they are dumb (act stupid, forgetful) and always making mistakes. There’s always a problem and you have to accept some level of imperfection.
If you have to fire a helper this can be an awkward process. You have to consider the reason for her being fired. If she is just incompetent and did nothing grievously wrong and you feel she is honest, then make up a story that has nothing to do with your dissatisfaction and give her a month warning or notice of termination. This is quite risky but how kind you want to be, only you know.
If there is a serious problem that requires her immediate dismissal, such as you catch her stealing something, then just be firm and have her leave immediately. You will still have to pay expenses for her to get back to her province. Don’t hand her the severance pay until she has packed, handed you the house keys and at Changi airport departure gate. You may want to consider changing the locks.
Mom struggles to communicate with her. She pretend not to understand and escape to do things and when I came back from work at night, mom will tell me about her frustrations and I would try my best to be the translator.
The funny things is, every time when mom talk to me about her in the room, she will seat near the staircase to listen to our conversation instead of going to bed even when it is already her bed time.
After many such situations, I noticed something was not right. I started to observe her carefully and noticed that when we talked in Mandarin during dinner, when someone tells a joke, she actually laughs with us.
After many such tests, we confirmed that she really did understand but just did not want to admit it.
Why do we have meet the people session? Can these “sessions” helped us? I really really wonder. Today, I went to seek my MP, Mr Khaw Boon Wan for help.
The story begins in February when my then maid R informed that she wanted to go home as her mother is sick. I told her to re-consider as she had only work 9 months. But she was adamant about going home so I brought her back to the agent. The agent told her off and we arrange to bring an new domestic helper in to assist me. The agent then asked her if she is willing to wait till the new helper comes. The agent told her that it will be about a month and she said it is OK.
When we were back home, I told her that I think it will probably takes more than a month as I worked with this agent many times previously and he had never been able to get me a helper in a month, but she replied that it is OK.
Then few days later, she came crying saying that she changed her mind and her mother told her to stay. I then told her that nothing can be done as I have signed for a new helper. (What I didn’t tell her was even I had not, I will not take her back as she does nothing the next few days after indicating her interest to go home.)
My this helper R is under the old contract whereby there is no off days, but out of compassionate, we gave her one off a month. Then her cousin, another fellow Fillipino sms to threaten me to give her more off days or they will complain to MOM. I of course ignored him as her contract says no off.
Then on 16 March 2013, she ran away. It was Saturday morning 7 am, and she sms saying that she will go to the embassy. I was rather surprised and tried to call her phone but she off it, so I sms her cousin telling her that I will have to make a police report on this issue.
What came after was a nasty SHOCK to me, her cousin replied tauting me to go ahead and that they had “warned” me and that they had videos “proof” of her working as a sales assistant at my push cart. Now, I owned a cart and employed ONLY SINGAPOREANS to work, on the rare occasion that my staff is off, I will have to stand in. This happens like once or twice a month, BUT I NEVER EVER ASKED HER TO TEND THE SHOP! This is pure accusation and deframation!
I was very worried but the police told that they will look into it. After lodging the report, I immediately went down to my shop and ask my neighbours for help. I asked if they can be my witness that I did not asked her to work. Very lucky for me, my neighbour then told me she recently installed a CCTV and the CCTV can see my shop and thus proof my innocence.
Then MOM called me up and advised that it is not worth my efforts to take this up and so I will buy her an airticket and send her home MOM agrees that I had not violated any regulations. I agreed thinking I can black list her and stop bad eggs like her from returning to Singapore to work. Thus imagine my surpise, that MOM now says that this is a civil case, not a criminal case and they cannot black list her.
She lied and tried to threaten me. She told the kids she will return and bring them out. She deframes me with the malicious intentions. If I do not have the CCTV, will I be jailed? I really don’t know.
So today, I went to meet the people session to ask my MP for help. He was not there as he is tied up in Parliament. The person “assisting” me told me NOTHING can be done. They cannot help me to appeal to MOM to black list her and I am probably “ over reacting” to the whole situation
SO foreigners come in, tell lies about us and if we have no proof, we go jail. But if they lie they go scot –free and free to come back to con another Singaporean.
Mr Goh claimed this, coupled with the woman’s failure in trying to seduce him on Dec 26, could have been the reason she decided to accuse him.
The prosecution has appealed against the acquittal.
The maid had been sent to stay in Mr Goh’s flat in Elias Road between Dec 17 and Dec 29, 2010, while his younger sister was in Taiwan.
In her police statement, the maid claimed that Mr Goh had barged into the bathroom and hugged her while she was naked. But in court, she said he touched her breasts, buttocks and her private parts. When asked why she did not say this to the police, she first insisted that she did, then later said that the police did not ask her specific questions about how she was molested.
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Police arrest Indonesian maid for Bukit Merah murdersThe police arrested on Monday an Indonesian maid for the gruesome Bukit Merah double murder of her employer and daughter. If the 22-year-old maid is found guilty of killing the woman and her daughter late last month, she faces the death penalty.
It started out as a tragic tale of a working mother, her two children and their maid being trapped in a fire at the woman's office. 34-year-old Angie Ng, and her 3-year-old daughter Crystal died. But her Indonesian maid and 1-year-old son Leon were rescued.
The maid Sundarti Suporiyanto and the boy suffered burns and were warded at the Singapore General Hospital burns unit. But within hours, the plot took a very sinister twist. The fire was nothing more than a smoke screen -- for a double murder.
The woman had slash wounds on her arms and had been stabbed in the neck, while her daughter was stabbed in the chest. The woman's husband - Mr Drake Poh - who is behind a 5-star hotel and casino in Myanmar, was away on business.
Then came reports the maid was caught on a surveillance tape at a petrol station buying a can of petrol just before the blaze. She was arrested when she got out of hospital. The maid will be charged in Court with two counts of murder on Tuesday.
When Channel NewsAsia contacted the family of the murdered woman, they said that they were relieved by the arrest. They said the maid was new, and they did not know what motive she had. They hope this will become clearer during the trial.
Due to above, Grief-stricken hubby gives up on life in year 2008 (read)
Leon, the son who survived called out to him in tears. He told him, 'Daddy, please don't give up. You have to take care of me'.
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She went out of the house when nobody's at home, leaving the house unlocked and meeting up with her friend, leaving the dog alone. I'm not sure whom she met and for what? She might even bring strangers in my hourse. Not sure if she fed my dog.
By the time we found out something wrong, she's been doing it for a long time already. When I gave her a chance to come clean, and tell me how many times she's been leaving the house.
She started to lie. After 2 hours, I started to get sick of her lies. I told her if she didn't want to be honest with me. I don't think she can continue to stay here. She claimed, "Even I tell you the truth, you will fire me anyway. Why I need to be honest?"
She didn't want to apologise at all & didn't want to tell the truth at all only because I didn't guarantee her to stay. Do I have a right to know what happened when I'm not at home? Who she met? Where she went? For how long? Did she feed the dog?
She only admitted she went out (because I caught) but refused to explain NOTHING.
My heart was totally broken because she wanted me to give her guarantee to be honest?
Then I reported to my husband. When he came home to confront her, he also gave her a chance to explain. She said she didn't want to explain. (we guessed the truth is too ugly to let us know in detail. We still don't know how many times she's been out of the house to meet her friends.)
I still can't believe to see the real face of her and I already don't know who she really is. I've been treating her as my sister, taking care of her and trusting her. When her husband cheated on her, she was crying like hell. All my family supported & comforted her.
It's the first time I saw a very different side of her. She only cares about benefits. No benefits, no honesty.
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Filipino Employer's view on maid (yaya).
This is what my filipino colleagues felt too.
Keep a distance from FDWs, never treat them like sister or close friend.
In Lian He Wanbao it elaborates:
"Cash amounting to $700 of different currencies was also recovered on her during the search conducted by the maid agency staff.
"The maid, when exposed in front of the agency staff, was still arrogant and walked away thinking that we cannot do anything to convict her!
Many households hire maids to help here and there, but stories like these go to show that sometimes you simply can't trust a stranger. Of course not all domestic workers are like this and there are many who are reliable and can be trusted.Perhaps a better screening process should be put in place to ensure maids are of good character, or assurance that those found stealing are removed from the agency and disallowed from finding maid work again.
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Philanthropy is a laudable virtue but should one do blindly?
Have you read all that I have plucked here and there regarding what maids did? Did the truth frightened you and stopped you from hiring a 'cheap FDW'?
Or you felt those can't be real. Maids surely not that bad.
Maids/FDWs are well protected to work in Spore. Many people eager to shower maids with protection, care and abundant love. Lots of people claimed employers have over exaggerated ... advocate maids' name shouldn't be publicised, FDWs deserve plenty of chances to err and Employers cannot jeopardise their chances to get a juicy job or be re-employed to give their new employers new cycle of sufferings!
Why maid unhappy to work here but glued her feet to this little red dot? No one forced you to work here as a multi-tasking maid. If you don’t like your job and entitlement here, just go back to where you came from. You were the ones itchy backside, willing to offer maid agency money about S$2000 to fly to Spore for a position known as Foreign Dometic Worker (FDW). We didn't force you to take up such a lowly job. There is a long queue behind you, which include candidates who really need a decent job to feed their impoverished families back home. Give up this hot seat to somebody who needs a job more than you. You are unwelcomed to enjoy life at our expenses. Don't make us hire a princess and serve her like she's a guest in our house.
Any maid who claimed she worked 16 to 20 hours a day, 7 days a week (no off day) and forbidden to eat with the employer's family .... I must ask, are you insane? Didn't you receive MOM's newsletter mailed to your employer's house that teaches you what are your rights? If you claimed didn't receive any newsletter, don't you know how to view MOM website or read the free newspaper? Didn't your agency or countryman teach you how to scheme and get lesser work? Don't you hold a mobile phone or able to communicate with others ... you have so many helplines or people waiting to save you but you chose not to use? If you're really such a hardworking, poorly treated but remain well behaved person ... wow, you're a rare species. Unbelievable to know Sg princess attitude FDWs can stand such a harsh life, didn't complain to MOM or runaway. Your employer must have treated you well in some ways that kept you contented, hesitated and glued to their house. Why you want to stay with a lousy employer and at the same time complain to others you have overworked ... your complaints are not justifiable.
I came across a Facebook page created by a FDW. She has all sorts of unhappiness eg she worked long hours, tasked to cook feasts because she claimed her employer felt she could cook very well .... but she remained glued to Spore .... 8 years (not the same employer), isn't this contradicting? This net savvy FDW chose to work in that bad household and has time to post her unhappiness as well as others online (in her employer's premises). She has a husband who was a journalist, holding a degree and currently working in Spore constuction office (air-con). Can somebody enlightened me by explaining why FDW complains she is not working for a good employer, made her slog for 12-18 hours, yet choose to remain there? If she really worked long hours, where did she find time to go online bad mouthing employers ie posting on Facebook, her blog, etc? She worked 8 years in Spore! If she felt she is very good or can shine better elsewhere, why force herself to work in a lousy employer's house? She has off days to meet her husband who has been the one to proof-read her stories. Her husband is so highly educated yet didn't try to find his wife a better job. Is it because as live-in FDW, she gets free lodging, food, insurance .... all sorts of good bargains? She can visit maid agencies, compare and find her desired employer so what's holding her?
Don't understand what she is thinking.
If you wonder why Employers didn't use proper channel to complain, why set up a blog, spare some time, read my blog and you'll know why. This blog was created when I employed an Indonesian maid. Blogging is good, I have a proper outlet to vent and warn others ... avoid myself from bottling everything and end up kixiao. Blogging is better than screaming or lecturing my Indo maid who made it looked like chicken and duck relation. This blog serves as my diary too!
When you nag, reminded your FDW too often or shouted at her once awhile, there may be undesireable consequences. She can be somebody who has extremely high ego and pride thus, I may put my girl at greater risk of being abused.... even though maid was purposely doing the wrong things. Some maids do not want to be reprimanded for repeated mistakes/negligent, thought too highly about themselves or had the wrong definition of 'being treated like human'. Over pampered, too demanding and unrealistic!
I am not capable of being a gracious person by forcing a smile on my face, so fake, pretend I'm not upset, annoyed by what my FDWs did and what MOM/activists has inflicted (click, see what MOM replied to me) on me are no big deal. Think on the bright side ... sad to say, the bright side is not beyond my reach!
If what my FDWs did to me are bestowed upon you, can you still be sympathetic and gracious?
Domestic helper accused of theft and hurting boy
inSing.com - 12 July 2012
No, it was not a wrestling show gone wrong. The incident allegedly happened when a domestic helper was home with her employer’s son in a HDB flat at Tampines Street 82.
The woman, a 27-year-old from
She was also charged with stealing $1,530 in cash from her employer between April 2011 and July 2012.
A neighbour interviewed by Shin Min Daily News, known only as Madam Jiang, said she had observed that the domestic helper had a tendency to stare into space and be in her own thoughts. However, she said that Juwarni was polite and would smile at the neighbours.
Madam Jiang added that the victim’s parents had once told her that the helper was not doing a good job and they were intending to replace her.
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当女佣太好命，变成自以为是，‘无法无天’恶言相向 是你的问题，因为你纵容她！睁一眼闭一眼 息事宁人 不一定是好事。
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The Sri Lankan maid who allegedly killed her lover was sleeping with another two men behind his back.
She was allegedly so besotted by her lover that she went as far as to steal her employer's cheque book twice for him to forge cheques to encash.
But when Mr Murugaiyan Selvam, an Indian national and Singapore permanent resident, asked Sri Lankan maid Tharmalingam Puwaneswary to do so again to use the money for his wedding back home in India, she allegedly snapped.
Puwaneswary is on trial for manslaughter after she was accused of killing Mr Murugaiyan, by striking him twice on the head with an improvised dumb-bell weighing about 5.6kg in December 2009.
She also allegedly stabbed him near his genitals with a sharp object.
One of the two men, Mr Ramasamy Thiyagarajan, testified that he had sex with Puwaneswary about six days after the alleged killing and said he did not notice anything odd.